2 annoying misconceptions I think

[Larisa]

Ive heard these before and they bug me everytime. I had to listen to this ignorant nonsense from an exfriend a few years back for example. He would tell me how can you be a girl inside if you are attracted to girls and if you have a boy body, your not a real girl.

He even suspected how I felt and he got worse in his bashing. First who Im attracted to does not define what gender I am and identify as inside. 2nd, Im as much a girl as any other girl. I may have been born in a boys body but I think and feel like a girl. He would tell me Im the most hetro person he ever met. This told me he knew nothing about what he was saying.

I see this kind of junk on facebook or elsewhere and it bothers me.

I don't know what it feels like to be a guy basically. I dont know. If Im forced to play the boy thing, Im more unhappy. If Im able to be myself, Im way more happy. Why people dont want others to be happy is odd. Im a girl, not a boy and could never be that boy naturally even if I tried. I have tried and it feels fake, empty, unrelatable and just makes me sad.

[shaunna]

hun you are a girl and no one can tell you that you are not. "hugs"

[kathb31]

The idea of not knowing what if feels like to be a guy rings so true to me. I have always
felt like I was play-acting during the many decades I was in hiding. I had a little pep talk
phrase I would say to myself   "Macho .. macho to the max always". Which simply meant
I needed to concentrate on being a guy even if it went against my real nature.
You are what you are in life and you are a girl no matter what anyone says.

[AnxietyDisord3r]

Some people are just ignorant fools. They go through life unthinkingly and they aren't intellectually curious. Anybody who's been paying attention knows that sexual orientation has nothing to do with being masculine or feminine or being a boy or a girl but to this guy, in his bubble of cishet privilege, sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression are all the same thing.

Is this guy only dumb on this one subject?

[Beth Andrea]

...how can you be a girl inside if you are attracted to girls...

Wow, sounds like he has a LONG way to go in developing a little understanding, since he seems to be unaware of lesbians!

Better have a talk with that young man about the birds and the bees, the flowers and the trees, the moon up above, and a thing called love...*begins humming the tune*

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umyl-wWRkJ4&feature=share

[SammyGirl]

I've always felt that I was actress in a very demanding role that required that I portray an heterosexual male to the world audience.  Ironically whenever I played either role playing or video games I would without hesitation select/create  a female character which naturally I would be questioned by my guy friends.  It got the the point that when playing online in MMORPG games I would have a avatar that was clearly female.  (It still grosses me out how many guys online will hit on as a perceived girl in their virtual midst, no matter if you tell them your a lesbian.) 

I will be honest with all of you I have though what it would be like to be with a man but as it stands.   it sort of creeps me out that I just don't have the right equipment for that type of encounter.  But I'm still in my very early stages of figuring out who and what I am, though its taken nearly four decades to get to this point.

Based on how I feel on the inside I wonder how I would've felt towards men if my biological body matched the feminine soul within.

[Larisa]

Some people are just ignorant fools. They go through life unthinkingly and they aren't intellectually curious. Anybody who's been paying attention knows that sexual orientation has nothing to do with being masculine or feminine or being a boy or a girl but to this guy, in his bubble of cishet privilege, sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression are all the same thing.

Is this guy only dumb on this one subject?

He knew nothing about this. This is not why I havent spoken to him at all for a good while but it def didnt help. I had to listen to his nonsense and it was annoying and that's putting nicely.

[DawnOday]

Ive heard these before and they bug me everytime. I had to listen to this ignorant nonsense from an exfriend a few years back for example. He would tell me how can you be a girl inside if you are attracted to girls and if you have a boy body, your not a real girl.

He even suspected how I felt and he got worse in his bashing. First who Im attracted to does not define what gender I am and identify as inside. 2nd, Im as much a girl as any other girl. I may have been born in a boys body but I think and feel like a girl. He would tell me Im the most hetro person he ever met. This told me he knew nothing about what he was saying.

I see this kind of junk on facebook or elsewhere and it bothers me.

I don't know what it feels like to be a guy basically. I dont know. If Im forced to play the boy thing, Im more unhappy. If Im able to be myself, Im way more happy. Why people dont want others to be happy is odd. Im a girl, not a boy and could never be that boy naturally even if I tried. I have tried and it feels fake, empty, unrelatable and just makes me sad.

My nephew said he could spot a transgender person from a mile away. I said Really? He didn't know what I was laughing about.