QuoteBut I guess it depends on what passing means to you?
Passing is passing, you either do or you don't. I hate to see people urged on with "cheer leading" when they are in fact just being pandered to. Passing seems to be something more than merely looks. There's some homely, masculine women out there but you'd never think, Hey, that's a guy". So it isn't all visuals. Mannerisms, voice, reaction, walk, conversational inflections, responses to fear, surprise, sadness....it's all a package and refined dance that is more easily adapted by some than others. Think, those that would be good actresses vs. those that couldn't possibly. Gotta "fake it till you're making it".
But it's pretty disingenuous when I see girls telling others, "hey...you rock it!" or "just get better with
make-up" ,etc...etc......etc....when these things clearly fall short of what is necessary for the person to achieve the goal they're shooting for. It's unfair to lead someone down a path that could cause them to be deluded to the degree that they do something that will cause them humiliation or embarrassment. Unfortunately, our community is more than a bit hypersensitive, so criticism, even constructive, is rarely tolerated.
Don't be discouraged is my advice, be honest with yourself. Assess what needs to be done,. Set a plan, chart your course, be patient and plod forward. If your trans, it's your only course and anything less is totally
counterproductive. Your future is yours to mold and is in your hands alone.
