I didn't realize there were two videos!
To be more clear, when it comes to the first one, I think Voice should be at the top of the list of things to do at the beginning of the journey, well before that first opportunity to come out. It's the most difficult thing to get down, and takes time. It's also the most important -- a great voice changes everything. Because once we get into relationships, whether with new friends, new lovers, or new colleagues, it's through Voice that our interactions will take place. I think this woman has voice listed as #8 or #9 on her list. Make it #1.
Consequently, in the second video, it's all about physical appearance. This is the big concern (rightly so) that delays transition, but again, there's no mention of voice. At all!
Early in my process, as the woman points out for others, I began noticing tall women. And I'd do an evil thing -- I would try to read these women. Try to "clock" them, though of course I'd never bring it to their attention, just some random woman at McDonalds, hell no, that would be rude. Anyways, I'd look for tells. I'd begin to wonder. And then the Tall Woman would place her order, and suddenly there's no doubt at all, of course this is a woman, nothing out of the ordinary here except that she's tall.
But I have always been so concerned with material reality. I'll watch these again later, because this therapist is also getting at some psychological issues, which also must be attended to.
