Change in sexual orientation

[Mia]

One thing that my psychologist (a very successful transgender person) discussed with me was the brain/body CRAVING estrogen, like a piece of the puzzle had been missing all of the years leading up to this whole concept of transitioning. That was why I eventually discovered that starting HRT was so fantastic, and frankly to this day I feel a wave of bliss post-injection...as a matter of fact, I worked with my MD to figure out the timing between injections because I was getting moody and bitchy toward the end of my old 2-week cycle.

My point is that the body and mind were not bathing in the correct juices until HRT started. Thus many connections are either enhanced or invented once the estrogen begins, and those may lead to a change in interest/perception/responsiveness.

Mia

[Virginia Hall]

My point is that the body and mind were not bathing in the correct juices until HRT started. Thus many connections are either enhanced or invented once the estrogen begins, and those may lead to a change in interest/perception/responsiveness.

Mia

I think we are in heated agreement. 

[Stephenie S]

I've noticed that although I find women to be perfect for me, I really love the fabled "safety" and chivalry a man can offer. I am very blessed to have a female partner who is strong and willing to accommodate my femininity (I've become the more feminine of the two of us since transition). She is protective and amazingly capable, so she checks all the boxes in my needs list.

After I started taking hormones I became more and more sensitive to men's "scent" - their musky pheromone smell. Frankly I find it repulsive, at first I thought it was nasty BO but came to realize it was common among all men. That sensitivity continues.

I used to question my sexuality prior to transition, but now I can't imagine trying to have a relationship with a man, anything other than a quick and safe fling maybe. So in essence I think that hormones might have killed my desire for men rather than strengthening it.

My situation is rather similar concerning the partner that is accommodating, ditto the scent of men being foul, I never questioned my sexuality. I love being with women and would never consider having anything to do with a man. Yeah sure I've wondered what it would be like with a guy but sorry nobody will get anywhere near that. The thought of a man touching me gives me the creeps.
Besides men have wanted me since I was 12 years old so I have quite a bit of experience with men already.
If I were with a man I would feel like I was his prey not his girl.
I don't worry about sex and sexuality much since my libido hit the floor and I am actually really so much happier now that it's virtually gone. A high sex drive can be stressful.

[naa]

There was a poll I saw a while back, asking trans people if they'd experience a change in their sexual orientation.

I don't remember the exact results, but it was roughly 22% of trans men and 29% of trans women said their orientation had changed.

I've been on HRT for about four and a half months, and I've not noticed any significant change in my orientation.  Maybe that will change in future, who knows.

[transnztal]

I've noticed that although I find women to be perfect for me, I really love the fabled "safety" and chivalry a man can offer. I am very blessed to have a female partner who is strong and willing to accommodate my femininity (I've become the more feminine of the two of us since transition). She is protective and amazingly capable, so she checks all the boxes in my needs list.

After I started taking hormones I became more and more sensitive to men's "scent" - their musky pheromone smell. Frankly I find it repulsive, at first I thought it was nasty BO but came to realize it was common among all men. That sensitivity continues.

I used to question my sexuality prior to transition, but now I can't imagine trying to have a relationship with a man, anything other than a quick and safe fling maybe. So in essence I think that hormones might have killed my desire for men rather than strengthening it.

So you liked girls before and now like them even more?

[Mia]

Yep. Used to have some interest in men, no more.

[transnztal]

I was ashamed that I really like to be with guys. My first partner was a male and we saw each other through High School. I had male partners in College. Then I tried to conform and I forced myself to be with a woman. When I started to transition I just gave up on the façade.

Hormones created a lot of emotion. Transition caused me to get in tough with myself.

So just to understand you liked guys before and after transition ?

[transnztal]

I was a gay male before transition now I'm a straight female but for some reason lately I'm not that attracted to guys that much. I have never been with a girl before transition and I am STILL not attracted to girls or would want to be with one. But ever since my hormone dose switched I've had a wacky sex drive I either have none or I just feel like masturbating I feel asexual right now? I would love to get back in touch with my male attraction maybe once my hormones level out and my dysphoria goes away because it's for sure a distraction in my sex life (getting SRS soon)

[SarahElizabeth1981]

Interesting reading. So this is my experience so far..   I"m a trans woman that likes woman. However, I have been with some men in the past. Although I never felt that attracted to them and usually found it to be a turn off. it's my internal experience with sex in particular that help me figure out I'm trans.

in fantasies I was the girl with a guy, when I was actually with a guy I was more in the role of a woman. although I didn't think of it like that at the time. Now that I'm transitioning my fantasies have changed and are of me as a women with a women. I have thought "it's been a while since I was with a guy maybe I should.." but I have no interest whatsoever in actually doing it. I have even tried to find some guys to meet up with and couldn't bring myself to go thorugh with it.

  also, I have started taking testosterone blockers I'm not taking estrogen yet.

Hearing all of your stories and thoughts I think it's more about your internal thoughts and ideas and perhaps changed to them that determine if your sexual orientation will change or not. I have heard it said "thought, not structure is boss"  So while hormones will change your bodies I don't think they alone will change your orientation. Rather it would be your own changes in perhaps how you see yourself (after hormones) and how you seee yourself with a partner that may change. That at least has been my experience.

[StillAnonymous]

I still highly prefer women.  I don't know what it is, but even on the tube yesterday, I could just feel all the blood rushing to my face in blush as I saw an absolutely gorgeous woman...  and I couldn't stop.  Nearly one year of HRT has done some incredible "magic", but my sexuality hasn't changed a bit.

I like to say prefer because I've never really had anything against men and would be open to dating them, but I haven't come across any of interest to me.

[Xirafel]

Hm, I saw some possible signs of that, but I'm probably just overthinking it.
I haven't been on it for long enough of a time for that sort of thing to happen.

[transnztal]

Hm, I saw some possible signs of that, but I'm probably just overthinking it.
I haven't been on it for long enough of a time for that sort of thing to happen.

Good point. I think I was over thinking my sexuality as well. I did read about other people's changing so it made me confused but as time passed now I know it depends on the person. I was attracted to men before and now I am just as much attracted to men the only difference is my sex drive goes up and down.

[Rebecca]

9 months in on hormones and I am changing a bit. The sex part of my brain is still in total lockdown due to my current genitals but I am definitely changing.

I've always identified as lesbian even before I recognised myself as trans. Anything involving guys was always an immediate turn off. Best porn in world could be ruined by bringing in just one guy.

During sex in the past the only way I could function was with lesbian fantasies shared with my partner.

But I have changed.....

Started small being hugged and complimented by my laser guy making me feel really good. When alone or upset I'd wish I was back in that hug with his arms around me holding me close. I still look forward to every laser session for my hug and his smile. Nothing will ever happen with him but that doesn't lessen how happy seeing him makes me.

Another guy at work I never even interacted with before is very nice to me. Always calls me "Darling" and smiles a lot when we see each other. Treats me  like a proper lady but still freely talk about my plans, surgeries and sexuality. He's probably just being nice but I realised if he was to tell me he got a new girlfriend I'd be jealous. I'm defo interested in him for a relationship even without sex.

After talking with my sis giggling like a schoolgirl talking about my crush at work and our chats we kinda agree at the very least I'm flirting with him. Even better I think/hope he's been flirting back.

As for why I don't really care it makes me feel nice.

Same as everything else though go back 2 or more years and tell me about it he'd freak out or call BS on it.

For now I think I'll take a Bi label as I'm defo taking an interest in guys now. Even skirting closer to my sex block with thinking about being kissed by him. I'm still too young to think about sex but I'll grow up soon enough.

Forgot to add I am still with my wife and faithful unless we ever agree to open our relationship.

[Fresas con Nata]

I'm not on hormones.

My personal experience is that the very fact that discovering I might be trans, and some time later seeing I probably am, and some time later realising I definitely am, has opened my mind regarding my attraction to men. Even before all this, I regarded some of them as handsome (the typical Tom Cruise you know ). During the process, I realised I liked one of my coworkers, I realised that when I was a child I actually liked a boy at primary school, and recently I even had a "wow who's that guy" moment, to my astonishment. A couple of weeks ago I was looking at videos by Veritasium on youtube and, it's true, I like that guy.

In proportion, it's till 96 girls for every 4 guys so I'm mostly lesbian. Funny because last month I used to answer "97/3" to that question... and remember, not on hormones yet. It's all within our brains.