Why does being "thin" help to pass as Female?

[Raell]

Brooke

That video about sitting like a lady is funny! Sort of.

When I was little, it was the 1950's and the only clothing option on our mission was dresses for girls.
My mom did her best to prompt me to sit "properly" and when I continued to resist, she sat down opposite me with legs spread and let her underwear show. I was so horrified I complied with proper sitting posture, but resented the whole dress/skirt thing, deciding it was obviously invented by misogynist males.

When my daughter was a toddler, even though at the time I attended church, I refused to make her suffer by dolling her up in dresses in which she had to be ladylike. Instead, I designed/sewed cute dress outfits that included matching bloomers and when she was five years old I began making pink, lacy corduroy church overalls with matching shirts so she could do flips and cartwheels in the church yard as she wished (she was on a tumbling team by then).

If anyone tried to lecture me on my daughter's church clothes I replied that she was never going to be forced sit still because of some oppressive article of clothing that shows underwear if she moves around.

[Miss Lux]

In part it's true... That's why the Asian girls find it easier to pass generally due to their smaller body frame.... But for me personally i look feminine if I have a little meat because when I get too skinny all the bones and angles starts to show and I look older.... I am 5'2 and tries to maintain 100-106 lbs.... When i get to 92-95 lbs i look harsh.... My heaviest 118-120lbs not good u lose all the shape and harder to wear sexy or girly stuff... Just me

[RobynD]

How tall were they?

I think one was about 6' - other than that, all were in that fairly common 5'6 range.

[Saira128]

I am 6'1, heavy. Will I pass after transitioning? What do you thing should be my ideal weight to pass succesfully?

[jentay1367]

Very heavy women don't pass as anything other than women. Weight is not enemy. Where the weight is OTOH, is a tell. Women don't carry weight on shoulders and upper back for instance. Popeye forearms are not something you see on most gals. The hormones help to shift things around. I really feel that losing too much weight on a big boned person makes you look too angular. So weight on its own is not really the issue.

[DuchessBianca]

No. Any breast growth that has already occurred will stay. (In my case I had a solid A cup that developed in my teens due to hormone imbalances).

Basically what I'm seeing and others is any progress that your currently seeing may be slowed or put on hold during periods of weight loss. When your weight stabilizes the breast growth ramps back up. This also only applies to consistent weight loss (1 or more pounds per week for over a month).

Remember that breasts are more or less made of fat. When you're in a constant state of weight loss your body isn't creating new fat deposits. Much like my issues with fat redistribution; it hasn't happened yet due to still losing weight.

Even in Cis women it is not uncommon for breast sizes to change significantly with weight loss or gains. The fat had to be taken/put back from somewhere.

If for instance you end up in a consistent weight loss state for several months count on any breast development to slow or be put on hold for that time. This should not modify the final outcome, though may extend the timeframe to completion by however long you were losing weight for.

Don't freak out if when you start losing weight your breasts appear to shrink. That's normal and expected for anyone with fat in the breasts, male or female.

I myself was a little concerned as my bras weren't fitting as snugly. But then I measured band sizes and has gone a band size. The minimal fat lost in my breasts was offset by much more coming off my midsection. In fact now it looks like I have larger breasts than I did due to the proportion changes in hips and waist- along with being able to get away with tighter fitting cuts that before weight loss accentuated my spare tire rather than breasts. Made the male gut a pretty dead giveaway that I was not cis. (My belly fat has always been the first to go on and last to come off, where any remaining fat is now). No fat is being taken from my breasts at this point.  Went from a 36 B to a 34 B and holding for past several months. I would expect that once I put some weight back on it will also help fill in the breasts, hips, and butt for those curves we all want so dearly.

Hopefully that makes sense and wasn't too convoluted.

If you have any more questions or need further clarification let me know!

Hugs!
Brooke

Hopefully I'm not interrupting and I can only speak from personal experience but having been on HRT just slightly more then 6 months and weighed 235 on the day I got my scripts I currently weight 182 and actually have larger breasts now then what I had (probably mostly fat) when I started. They aren't really full as I probably have another 3 years of growth before I get to that stage if ever but I have a lot of tissue that has formed in that time and is at least about 1.5". Was on a daily calorie deficit of about 1000 most of the entire time.  I certainly plan to drastically slow my pace to more or less maintain/ever so slightly lose and I can't say how much bigger they would be if I never lost any weight but for me I have seen pretty substantial growth for the short amount of time I've been on HRT.