Motivation needed.

[DawnOday]

Ladies, I need someone who will commit to calling me names and stepping on my ego. Why? Because I have lost just about all the weight I can, due to diet changes. I need to exercise, but am not motivated to do it on my own. As you may know I have been sick the last 25 years with heart disease. As a result I have not been as active as I would like to have remained. Until I was 26 years old I played up to five hours of basketball a night. By 28 I could not do a 100 yard sprint. I need a cheerleader and a task master. Someone who will give me the business as I have a very hard time motivating myself. Someone who will contact me and give me a virtual Denozo thump on the head  It would be much appreciated and I could reciprocate with something you need help with. My Therapist suggested I recruit one of you to be my conscience. Anybody up to it? I'm willing to report my daily activity. Perhaps we could create a club of like minded people that need reinforcement and help one another. I'd be more than happy to discuss. Any suggestions? It will be a very big part of my confidence building. Thanks for reading.

<3 Dawn

[Dena]

How about a once a week weigh in thread where all your sins will be on display?

[DawnOday]

How about a once a week weigh in thread where all your sins will be on display?

Great idea Dena. I'm all for it. I will not even let the cold weather be an excuse. One of the easiest things to do is to walk the mall. I have seen literally hundreds of people doing it early in the morning while picking up coffee on my way to Boeing. 

[Michelle_P]

There's the 10,000 steps challenge. Make yourself do that, with your smartphone to monitor and ratfink you out.

Report your weight, how many days you hit 5,000, and how many days you hit 10,000, Missy, or you'll have to reorganize all the old "You look fabulous, Darling" threads.  [emoji8]


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[DawnOday]

There's the 10,000 steps challenge. Make yourself do that, with your smartphone to monitor and ratfink you out.

Report your weight, how many days you hit 5,000, and how many days you hit 10,000, Missy, or you'll have to reorganize all the old "You look fabulous, Darling" threads.  [emoji8]

Yes, in fact I recommended that to someone just last week. duh. That's just under 5 miles which is a stretch for me but baby steps and I should be able to cover the distance is three, four months. Thank Michelle

Dawn

[sarah1972]

Great idea Dena. I'm all for it. I will not even let the cold weather be an excuse. One of the easiest things to do is to walk the mall. I have seen literally hundreds of people doing it early in the morning while picking up coffee on my way to Boeing.

Walk the mall? I just end up buying more shoes...

I like the idea of a step & weight challenge...

I'll start... 160 lbs and 1,500 steps (way missed the goal)

[Amanda_Combs]

Uh.... I don't know about giving the business or calling you mean names.  How about I just remind you how yummy healthy foods are?  Or I could tell you that you can take one more step!  You can do it!  [emoji16][emoji6]


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[DawnOday]

Uh.... I don't know about giving the business or calling you mean names.  How about I just remind you how yummy healthy foods are?  Or I could tell you that you can take one more step!  You can do it!  [emoji16][emoji6]


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Amanda
Looking forward to your reminders. Thanks.

Dawn

[2cherry]

I would say...

If you are not motivated to do something it's usually due to one of two reasons:

1. You don't really want to do it. (otherwise you're already doing it)
2. Depression.

1. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to do something. Maybe you are so comfortable that you have an actual choice. And that choice doesn't feel like beneficial enough. So how can you make it beneficial? rewards, setting goals etc...

2. This is more serious.

Right now I am dealing with a post-op depression myself. All motivation is simply gone for me.

[DawnOday]

I would say...

If you are not motivated to do something it's usually due to one of two reasons:

1. You don't really want to do it. (otherwise you're already doing it)
2. Depression.

1. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to do something. Maybe you are so comfortable that you have an actual choice. And that choice doesn't feel like beneficial enough. So how can you make it beneficial? rewards, setting goals etc...

2. This is more serious.

Right now I am dealing with a post-op depression myself. All motivation is simply gone for me.

I've been on anti depressants since 1995, starting with Prozac and now Wellbutrin and Citalopram. My problem is not a desire to get off my arse. But rather dealing with the pain once I do. Leg cramps, muscle aches, nerve pain.

I would say...

If you are not motivated to do something it's usually due to one of two reasons:

1. You don't really want to do it. (otherwise you're already doing it)
2. Depression.

1. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to do something. Maybe you are so comfortable that you have an actual choice. And that choice doesn't feel like beneficial enough. So how can you make it beneficial? rewards, setting goals etc...

2. This is more serious.

Right now I am dealing with a post-op depression myself. All motivation is simply gone for me.

Been on antidepressants since 1995 first Prozac, now Wellbutrin, and Citalopram. Actually the best antidepressant has been estradiol over the last four months. I have lost 80 lbs in the last 18 months due to diet and proper eating habits. Several Big Gulps a day is not going to get you very far in the healthy eating category. My problem is pain tolerance. It does not take me long to tire and my muscles to start burning. I need to work through my pain and that is where you good people come in. I have neuropathy due to diabetes and the pain sometimes is unbearable. But not impossible with the right backing. That is why I am making the appeal to you all. If I can be motivated to expend myself a little further every day. I have to start at such a low level so progress will be measured in steps not distances.

[zirconia]

Working out against pain must be hard, but you do sound motivated.

Adding a reasonable number of steps every day is one approach. Someone I know decided to start with one sit-up the first day and build up to 365 after a year. A similar plan—say adding fifty steps a day and never doing less than on the previous day—would get you to ten thousand steps in under six months...

Making it a routine to post your daily count each night would offer you the opportunity to supplement the steps by an evening stroll in case you haven't reached the goal by the afternoon.

[DawnOday]

Working out against pain must be hard, but you do sound motivated.

Adding a reasonable number of steps every day is one approach. Someone I know decided to start with one sit-up the first day and build up to 365 after a year. A similar plan—say adding fifty steps a day and never doing less than on the previous day—would get you to ten thousand steps in under six months...

Making it a routine to post your daily count each night would offer you the opportunity to supplement the steps by an evening stroll in case you haven't reached the goal by the afternoon.

Unfortunately due to the heart problems and the need to be on blood thinners the most powerful pain relief I can take is Tylenol. Can't take any N-saids. I do treat the pain in the evening before I go to bed but I cannot discuss that here. Also I could take opioids but with my addictive behaviour I do not want to chance screwing up 30 years of sobriety. I wish my life were less complex but on the other hand It pretty much vindicates my belief I am a DES baby.

[Michelle_P]

Ok, Dawn. Did you get some exercise in today?  How many steps?

I got 11,948 in today. 63 years old. Nudge, nudge...

Tomorrow is a new day. New you?


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[DawnOday]

Ok, Dawn. Did you get some exercise in today?  How many steps?

I got 11,948 in today. 63 years old. Nudge, nudge...

Tomorrow is a new day. New you?


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I am about to go out shopping at Costco. Probably get a thousand steps. Have in the neighborhood of 200 thus far.  Will probably hit up the Y tomorrow morning and take advantage of my silver sneakers.

[DawnOday]

So I went to the Speech Therapist today and good news. I was able to hold my pitch through the reading of a news story. To celebrate I went to Tacoma mall to treat myself with a Starbucks black tea. I ended up walking 2307 steps so far. I walked the mall from one end to the other. This is not all that hard. I am somewhat of a perfectionist and if I believe I can't finish a project to my standards, I just won't do it. Ergo I am always peeved. i always felt I had to go all out or nothing.

[Selenakyle]

So I went to the Speech Therapist today and good news. I was able to hold my pitch through the reading of a news story. To celebrate I went to Tacoma mall to treat myself with a Starbucks black tea. I ended up walking 2307 steps so far. I walked the mall from one end to the other. This is not all that hard. I am somewhat of a perfectionist and if I believe I can't finish a project to my standards, I just won't do it. Ergo I am always peeved. i always felt I had to go all out or nothing.

Great job on both the speech therapy and the walking!  You should feel proud of yourself!
There are a few apps I use to hold myself accountable, fitness wise. Lark is really good- it's a really encouraging app that logs your activity and checks in with you frequently.

[DawnOday]

Great job on both the speech therapy and the walking!  You should feel proud of yourself!
There are a few apps I use to hold myself accountable, fitness wise. Lark is really good- it's a really encouraging app that logs your activity and checks in with you frequently.

Thank you for your kind thoughts. I have something called "FIT" on my phone. It monitors steps, calories expended, milage and length of time.

[Deborah]

i always felt I had to go all out or nothing.

That's the thing about cardiovascular/aerobic fitness.  The goal is to improve it and going all out every time works against that goal.  Take it incrementally and what seems impossible now will feel like an easy day later.



It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.
André Gide, Autumn Leaves

[Amanda_Combs]

You're doing so great!!!  Especially with your voice, that turns me a deep shade of green.  [emoji6] You should try my favorite way to go on walks!  Just have either an audiobook or favorite record ready, get a snack(like carrots, kale, or nuts) and start walking.  If you'll only listen while you're walking, you get a lot of both done!  You can do it!  [emoji170]


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