Disability and Relying on others

[KarlMars]

Does anyone else here have a disability of any kind and have to rely on others for housing? Does this make transiting hard for you?

I have some mental health problems and probably have to rely on my family for housing which is why transitioning will be somewhat hard. My family is not understanding of my transition even though they want me to be happy and won't let me be homeless. They cannot keep me from starting T but they think I'm making a mistake and am not transgendered. Does anyone else have this problem?

[Elis]

I have a similar problem. I came out to my dad a year and 6 months ago while living at home. He wasn't supportive and deadnamed me until I texted him saying how hurtful it was. He still doesn't correctly gender me directly and thinks my social anxiety is something I can simply get over. And doesn't take my past depression seriously nor does he seem aware that he should apologise for this or the transphobic stuff. He still won't bring up me beimg trans even though the changes from T are now obvious. He wouldn't make me homeless though.

Just last week I moved into the YMCA which I hope will improve my mental health. I always thought you had to actually be threatened with or made homeless to get a room but found this wasn't the case. I also  contacted Stonewall housing but didn't find their advice that helpful apart from a link to a Facebook housing page for LGBT people.

I live in the UK but maybe you could also look into the YMCA and Stonewall. If you have quite a bit of savings look into facebook housing groups for LGBT people otherwise realistically private rent is just far too expensive.

[Kylo]

I've not got any sort of disability, but I am in a situation that I can't currently leave. I made a sort of deal or promise to someone, and that means I can't leave until the time is right. It means living with someone who isn't exactly hot about my transition.

I'm not going to put my transition on hold for anyone because of that. But it's gonna be interesting seeing how the dynamics change. I'm already less patient than I used to be with the arrangement but at the same time T helps keep me mellow and just concerned about my own stuff rather than theirs as well.

[FTMax]

Not disabled, but what you're describing is why I moved out of my grandparent's house when I was 17. I knew my grandfather would never go for any of it and would be rude and condescending. I also worried that he would interfere if I were to do anything towards medical transitioning under his roof.

It was fairly easy for me at the time. I just took out student loans and went to an out of state school. The first year was expensive, but after that I got hired as an RA and housing was free. My boss liked me a lot, so she hired me to stay on as a year round staff person. I never had to go home ever.

Maybe something like that would be a possibility for you? Not sure what your feelings are on higher education.

I think Elis offered a good suggestion. I don't know that YMCA houses anyone here in the US anymore, but it might be worth looking into. I am also in a Facebook group for trans people looking for and offering housing. You could potentially find yourself a roommate or an inexpensive space that would be transition friendly.