How do I come out as transgender to friends who online know me by my voice?

[IamAnna]

Hello,
I came out to half of my friends. I met them in private talked and showed them pictures how I look as a woman.
But over the time of my life the other half of my friends or me moved to different cities or countries. And other friends I have never seen and only talked with over voice over ip. While some have pictures of me in their head which are 10+ years old, some have no picture of me and only their imagination of me. The only thing they have from me is my voice. While I am working on my voice it is still a long way from female. For better comparison my current average pitch is 124 Hz. Which is a lot higher from where I started (think of misty mountain cold from the hobbit). So far only one mentioned that my voice got a lot softer which made happy, well he thought that I changed my microphone and has still no clue about my transition.

So how can I explain that I am a woman when the only thing they hear is my deep voice?

One remark I am still incredibly insecure with my looks as a woman, that is why I showed pictures of me on my phone to friends and did not send it.

Second remark my laughing is what needs the most work since it is a booming laughter. And will always betray my gender.

[ChristiVee]

As a gamer, I have given a question like this a good bit of thought. Actually, I just game out to my closer online friends today. In fact, only my wife, 1 local friend, and 2 online friends knew before this. Basically, I spent a LOT of time thinking on it.... I'm pretty popular on Facebook (almost 900 friends). Almost half of them actually interact with my posts somehow, out of the ~600 active accounts.

I thought long and hard on how to approach it, because I have the added misfortune of living in the bible belt, rurally near the gulf. As such, I don't want to "come out" in public locally, until I'm actually male failing, so I didn't want some people TO know... which made my situation harder.

For the friends I had on my page, I gauged who I wanted to know about "the new me", with my transition. Since I didn't want to upset anyone, I gave people a chance to comment on my post or HMU if they wanted to spend time with me (was almost my birthday). I thought about how open-minded some of the people were (or weren't) for a while, then created a new FB and added select ones I felt wouldn't gossip about it. I already have gotten male-failed on the phone for a while.

What I'm saying, in addition to any ideas that may have given you, is that may want to figure out which of these "friends" you want to come out to... or even keep. If it's bothering you this much, you may not be ready to come out yet, or you may need some better friends that make you feel more comfortable. I understand these are only online ones, and I'm closer friends with some online people than my local friends.

So, your answer is basically a question itself: "Do I want to keep (this person) as a friend" for each person. Also ask yourself why they're important to you, because again, if you even doubt how they'd react, sounds like you could do better. For "how to come out" to who you want to, I hope what I said earlier helps!

[Raell]

Wow, you two are brave to come out on Facebook.

The two Facebook pages is a good idea.

In my opinion, there has been so much transgender media exposure that most people won't care, and religious people only "care" because they are told to, in church, or when manipulated by political parties.
The older generations care more than the younger ones, to whom gender transition is likely a non-issue.
Hopefully, soon, "coming out" as anything will be a non-event in the US, as it is in Thailand.
One of my US friends recently transitioned to female, and few people bothered to comment when I mentioned it.

[IamAnna]

My friends online are truly my friends and I want to keep them all. We share what happens in our life with each other. In general we speak every or every second day with each other. We are a group of around 10 people. And even if someone is on a business trip for 5 month and comes back, we talk like he had left for just 5 minutes. I want to come out to them because they are my friend we spend so much time together they deserve to know what is happening to me, also some who I talked to in real life know it. The most important part for me is that whenever my not yet completely dead name is used I feel like I am still hiding who I am.
The reason why I am wondering how to come out to them was my experience with friends I already came out to. When I told them, the most I got from them was an ok or aha. Not much more. But their behaviour didn't change either. They didn't use my new name or proper female pronoun. They started to accept me as a woman once the saw me as a woman went to see movies with me as a woman. That was what made them realise that dude is a chick now.

[PrincessCrystal]

This has been on my mind lately, as I have chatrooms where I present as female, but may soon be in voice chats with them, because they're for Roleplaying games and they want to play by voice.  I need to work on my voice, but that's been hard lately due to roommate issues and other time constraints.  Right now, I'm thinking I'll probably just end up telling them and seeing how things go...

They sound like your friends, so they probably won't have a problem with it.

[DawnOday]

I recently talked to my ex of 37 years. We had not seen or spoken to each other since June 6, 1979. I just noticed how ironic the day is. D Day.  I said, do you know who this is? and she immediately said my name. I really got to get rid of the monotone.

[Dena]

I was in a skype conversation with 5 other people with video. It was a really great experience and I have only met one of the people in life. The software is free and works both on a PC or Mac. You need a camera and I find a headset works better that what comes in a laptop but either will work. You will need to be ready to show your face but I haven't found a really good way to capture images with it so it will be much like your phone.