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Dating difficult as TG

Started by KarlMars, December 24, 2016, 03:15:51 AM

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Kylo

Quote from: FTMax on December 26, 2016, 06:32:59 AM
I'm not at all interested in sex but I do like intimacy, romance, and companionship on a deeper than friendship level. I still like kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc. but draw the line at sex because it feels gross to me and I get no enjoyment out of it. When I date, it's to find someone that I mesh well with, who enjoys similar things, and who I am attracted to on some level in order to feel a desire for a degree of physical intimacy. And in an ideal world, they would be as uninterested in sex as I am.

ETA: I've been this way for as long as I can remember, but I am not completely convinced that it isn't dysphoria related. So we'll see after surgery in March.

Ah now I getcha. Yea, personally I think the dating part is the most interesting/exciting phase of any relationship. Must be hard finding people with the same idea in mind though. Although maybe not... I never used a dating site in my life, I guess you can find any type of person on those
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KarlMars

Quote from: AnxietyDisord3r on December 26, 2016, 06:43:14 AM
alienbodybuilder, transitioning is hard, but that doesn't mean you can't have a good life during and on the other side of it. If you're gay, there are more and more open minded gay guys out there who aren't afraid to be seen dating a trans man. You can also date other trans people as well. I think you only need to take a quick look around Susan's to see many stories of gay trans men who put off transitioning, married a straight or bi guy and now those relationships are blowing up because the dysphoria became too great.

I got really good at managing my dysphoria as a young adult, but it never went away. It only got worse, actually, because my brain didn't run well on estrogen. By putting off transition I was just hurting myself and denying myself the ability to feel connected the way I do now. Many trans people find that their whole mental environment changes in a positive way on HRT and this is what you would be denying yourself. Think about that.


Thanks. This was great advice.

Selenakyle

There are plenty of pansexual people out there for whom gender identity doesn't factor into whether or not they'll date someone! 
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Garnet

Im really excited to start dating males who are interested in me as me. Even if i am inbetween. :)
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