on a scale of 1-10 can you accept being transgender

[Violets]

I chose 3. Whilst I do accept that I'm trans, I see it as a burden, and have a hard time fully embracing it due to fear and feelings of shame that I just can't seem to shake. That said, I had been fighting the trans feelings for the best part of 50 years until I got to the point where I just couldn't fight them any more, hence why I'm heading in the direction of transition.

[Dani]

I had no choice in the matter. I was born this way. The alternative as I see it, was and is unthinkable. I am post-op and I am happy. The only thing I regret is not transitioning sooner, like 50 years ago!

[JoanneB]

I wish I could say YES - ABSOLUTELY

About as much as I wish I could say NFW... I wish I wasn't. But truth be Told, I am

Absolutely, I can and DO accept it. Practically, in the world I move in... they can't really. I barely do as a matter of survival.

Accept it... no. I've tried. For years I've tried. But the self I see behind my eyes, in my dreams, in every fibre of my being has a... realism I can never hope to attain in a way that would satisfy me. And I can't accept that. Within my soul I can't accept that. As much as I wish I could. It's one of my biggest failings, and a source of much anguish.

Deal with it... yes. Because I have to. Because life goes on. I wish I were a stronger person, to feel more at ease. But sadly I am not. All we can do is be as true to ourselves as we can be. Even when, at times, that doesn't feel like enough. Especially when it doesn't feel like enough.

Maybe one day I will reach a place where I can feel better about it, but in spite of everything, I am not there yet. I envy those who are.

[Sophia Sage]

10 . I hate it that no matter what , I'll never be cis like any trans cant .. its a pain that I cant accept but have to deal with it

"Cis" and "trans" are narrative constructs.  They're just stories.  Stories can be rewritten.  Just takes a different perspective.

You're a woman now.  You can let go of the old story.  However, my dear Ripley, it might feel like it takes the effort of kicking the Alien out of the airlock.

Maybe one day I will reach a place where I can feel better about it, but in spite of everything, I am not there yet. I envy those who are.

Irene: I don't even know who you are.

Vincent: I'm the same person I was yesterday.

Irene: I can't hear any more of your lies Jerome...

Vincent: My name is Vincent, all right? Vincent Anton Freeman, and I'm a "faith birth" or a "de-gene-erate", whatever you want to call it; but I am NOT a murderer!

Irene: You're a "God-child"?

Vincent: [takes Irene's hand and places over his heart] But we do have one thing in common, only I don't have twenty or thirty years left in mine. Mine is already ten thousand beats overdue.

Irene: It's not possible.

Vincent: You are the authority on what is not possible, aren't you Irene? They've got you looking for any flaw, that after a while that's all you see. For what it's worth, I'm here to tell you that it is possible. It is possible.

--Gattaca (1997)