Whats your fear level for being harmed for being trans

[stephaniec]

given all the latest reports of problems with being assaulted  for being trans what   is your level of fear of something happening for just being you.

[Nina_Ottawa]

I said zero, because I live in Canada. Not that there hasn't been trans abused, and certainly not all cases get reported, but let's just say I feel a lot safer here. No ridiculous laws about what bathrooms to pee in, we have a criminal code that stands up for protection of LGBT, and marriage/adoption laws for LGBT will never be challenged.

[zamber74]

given all the latest reports of problems with being assaulted  for being trans what   is your level of fear of something happening for just being you.

It scares me a lot, where I live there are still KKK members, confederate flags are adorned on many cars, and people are quite open when it comes toward their bigoted views.  At my last job, the "n" word was passed around frequently, homophobia was blatant, and very few people had liberal views on anything.  This is not in the least bit a liberal area, and considering I own my house here, my wife has her career here, it is not as though it would be easy to pick up and leave. 

I'm not sure if Tampa is any better, or even Orlando, but I want out of this crazy spot in Florida.  I really do wish I lived in Canada, or even Vermont sounds really nice. 

[stephaniec]

I feel all right so far, I just moved from a very liberal college town to Boys Town Chicago where there is a significant population of LGBTQ... and the LGBTQ... clinic I go to  is a short distance away as the same for the LGBTQ... community center , but it is still Chicago.

[SidneyAldaine]

Well, where I live - not harm, that's not what I'm afraid of but people can make your life a living hell when they find out you are trans. Bigotry and lack of understanding.

I still remember going to a confession as a kid telling a priest about me feeling different, he didn't understand called it experimenting and said I should stop otherwise my life will be harder. Plus all that usual crap about god creating man as a man and woman as a woman...

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[FTMax]

I don't think I have much risk, as I'm not visibly trans. My only worry is if I were to be in an accident or something and being unable to access care due to being trans.

[Michelle_P]

I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, a pretty accepting region of the USA.  Unfortunately, we still have to be on our toes and careful.

Because the region has a high LGBT population, it attracts a couple sorts of folks, LGBT people, and those who target LGBT people for violence.   Recently there have been a number of reports of a white commercial van, no markings, whose occupants have jumped out, assaulted someone, jumped back in the van, and left the scene.

So, yeah, I get pretty twitchy when I see a slow moving white van on the street, or small groups of men standing on the street.  I hate it, but it is an unpleasant part of real life.  We get targeted for violence.  Authority figures advocate violence against us.   Welcome to the Land Of The Free.


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[JoanneB]

For the most part I feel I "Physically" safe. My wife worries a lot for me for a lot of reasons, starting with hearing a lot of the horror stories 'back in the day' of what happened to Ts.

I do side with her on how here, just across the river from NYC, in this 'Village' , about everyone here will metaphorically grab their pitch forks and torches to "Kill the Monster". Once the rumor took hold about her life here hasn't been the same. At least she has "Plausible Deniability" being deep stealth. This 6ft tall bald guy.....

Oh how miss the halcyon days living part-time in West Virginia 

[Maybebaby56]

I do worry about the possibility of being assaulted, because I could do so little about it, and the consequences would be so grave.  It's why passing is so important to me.  It's my only defense. I must admit I have never been hassled, or even had a rude comment directed my way, but I still worry. It only takes one a-hole to ruin your day, or even your life.

~Terri

[RavenMoon]

I live in NYC, and people generally don't bother people that look different. I see trans women almost every day.

And that's only the ones I can recognize as trans. But like in any location, there's places I won't go. A trans woman was murdered in Newark, NJ a few years back. It was fairly close to where I was living at the time. And it was not a place I would ever go! Even in the day time. It was a rough neighborhood and a night club filled with rough people. Of course cis people get killed in these same areas every day. But clearly trans people are often targets.

So I think part of keeping yourself safe is don't go to places where you might put yourself in harms way because you are trans. Use common sense. And it also has to do with how obviously trans you are. I'm not full time yet, because in my opinion I don't pass well enough. So I limit when and where I go as Raven. And I know people might want to mess with me in some situations. Once I get to that point where I'm happy with my appliance then that will change.

[Tessa James]

Fear played a dominant role in keeping me in the closet for decades.  Fears that i allowed to grow and metastasize like some gross cancer.  I learned different processes to address theses fears including guided imagery.  I imagined myself on the edge of that cliff and about to fall but now I have wings.  Huge, spreading and golden wings that helped me to catch the breeze, ride the upwelling drafts and feel the thermal rise.  I float along quietly and sure, looking down from on high and seeing how small the features of worry are below. 

All of our fears can be faced but not all of our fears are imagined.  Horrible realities and hate exist too.  For this we develop our situational awareness, snappy retorts, deescalation and practice self defense.  This girl will not get hurt easily or quietly.  I will never let fear rule my life again.

[HappyMoni]

One could never get in a car again for fear of a fatal car crash. On the last day of my life would I rather say, "I played it safe" or "I tried my best to find happiness."  Of course, it is easier to say that living in Maryland and not Alabama.
Monica

[KathyLauren]

Like Nina, I live in Canada, so I am not too worried.  We have some pretty decent legislation, with nore in the works, to protect us.  And we are generally a more liberal country than meny others.  So my fear level is not terribly high.

On the other hand, I live in a small, predominantly redneck, rural community, with quite a few hillbillies for neighbours.  That is not great for the peace of mind.  The fear is still mostly hypotheticaL at the moment, since I am not out locally.  It will solidify when I go full-time, hopefully at a "nothing to worry about after all" level.

I voted "more than minimal".

[PritySteph]

Significant fear is accurate for me. I'm not FT yet.  I try to stay in safe areas l, but even some intown upper-end malls have an element of intimidators that have followed me while transformed. I constantly am scanning for safety clues, checking window reflections, mirrors, etc.

[TransAm]

I'm lucky enough to have full 'passing' privilege so my fear level is nil. 
I was infinitely more concerned for my safety/sanity when I was presenting as a butch lesbian long ago and actually had a couple incidents happen in public during that time.

Similar to FTMax, though, I do somewhat worry about traveling and getting into an accident that would require immediate medical attention. The few last surviving members of my family live in the bible belt so I do travel to the south semi-frequently and I know the air's a little different there.

[stephaniec]

it does get scary sometimes with all the terrible news that comes out. when I'm all dolled up I can """"pass""""" pretty good , but I do get scared when I head for the bathrooms.

[Pisces228]

Eastern North Carolina here......Confederate flags and ignorance everywhere.  I have a blade on me at all times in public,  better overly cautious than the alternative.

[SpeakYourMind]

Depends, but its normally a decent amount of fear
probably because iv'e had bad experiences when people find out.

[flytrap]

Nobody ever questions me being a girl or knows I share a male body, so my fear level is low.

[Stevie]

 I don't let fear rule my life, but like any woman caution is advised in certain situations. I'm full time and passing I don't think its my looks, but more my demeanor that gets me by.