Turning my partner in transsexual.

[AnneK]

It's been quite a while... So, I need to report the news of the last few months. My partner continues to feminize. She takes estrogen, did orchiectomies a month ago. But plans to save the penis, she explains it by wanting to save some of the male nature. It continues to remain ambiguous. Although outwardly more and more female look. Breast reached a size of 34 b changed gait and facial expression... She's still thinking about facial plasticity, but she's not sure yet.

Are you pleased with the results.  I would have loved to have a wife like you.  My ex liked me wearing pantyhose or stockings, but that was as far as she would go.

[The thing]

  Does she talk about any specific goals?

It sounds like a successful transition for both of you so far?  How are you two feeling about all these changes?

She wants to see further progress in the field of busts and hips and possibly change facial features with the help of surgery. Besides, she wants to develop a woman's voice by trinishing.

Yes, we both are happy about the changes. I am also happy because my orientation is mobile, and in the gender plan, I'm not 100% male, at a certain point in my life I considered myself as bigender... But the male EGO in my case turned out to be very strong =) Nevertheless, it's nice to see my girlfriend next to me, because my habits, emotions and interests go beyond just brutality;) I believe the partner is comfortable to have a number of such a versatile person too.

[The thing]

  I would have loved to have a wife like you.  My ex liked me wearing pantyhose or stockings, but that was as far as she would go.

I see... Try to find a queer woman for a serious relationship ... It is difficult to expect from a heterosexual wife to implement such actions. So, that you are looking for a spouse in the LGBT community. Wish you luck.

[Charlie Nicki]

This is very interesting. Had never heard about this. Kinda hope my boyfriend is as excited whenever he experiences my physical changes.

Good luck and I'm glad things are working out for you two.

[Julia1996]

Um...hi. I'm a little confused here.  First of all may I ask if you are trans, male, female, what?  So you had a gay cis male as a boyfriend and you encouraged him to transition and take estrogen? And now she has transitioned and has breasts and female attributes? Ok, please don't be like offended or anything but that's the most unusual thing I've heard. It sounds like a story you would find in like a fetish magazine or something. I'm just saying. If both of you are happy then cool.
Julia

[elkie-t]

It seems possible if a gay guy (and very confident in his life style choices) might have some desires to try and once tried, he wanted more. I wouldn't take it as he was actually forced to do anything, more like he had those suppressed desires all along and his partner suggestions turned the green light for him


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[Lady Sarah]

I know I had suppressed my desires to transition. My best friend (at the time) was riding things about me, and convinced me to go ahead with transition. When he tried to get me to switch back, that whole relationship was over.

If you stay together, love her with all your heart. If not, it would be best to just go your separate ways. I am happy for her.

[The thing]

First of all may I ask if you are trans, male, female, what?  So you had a gay cis male as a boyfriend and you encouraged him to transition and take estrogen? And now she has transitioned and has breasts and female attributes? Ok, please don't be like offended or anything but that's the most unusual thing I've heard. It sounds like a story you would find in like a fetish magazine or something. I'm just saying. If both of you are happy then cool.
Julia

I'm genetically a man. But to some extent I have a female side, as I have already written a part of life has identified as bigender. Now it seems that I stopped as a man with a broad outlook and sensual range. 100% will remain as a man, my physiology and a man's social role suits me. You can discuss clothes, watch a romantic film, flirt, be very open and sensual while remaining a man.

Yes, I opened for this man a woman's dressing room and offered to take hormones for a short period of time, I did not think that the partner is so keen. It began as a game.

I agree with you this is strange. But life sometimes is more amazing than in a movie. Yes, the partner just got addicted to everything female and went to change physiology, there must have been some inner preconditions. She says that she likes to be attractive not only for gays, when she looks like a woman, more men can pay attention to her. She also likes the variety of images, models of behavior that women show. She fell in love with women's clothes, she likes to create images. She likes a double life. Since she does not abandon the male personality habits and works so far as a man. So, that maybe a person is simply immersed in a fascinating experiment in a compartment with a certain fetishism. This person always liked to stand out and be special. As for me, I have a wide sexual range so for me much is acceptable)

[The thing]

I know I had suppressed my desires to transition. My best friend (at the time) was riding things about me, and convinced me to go ahead with transition. When he tried to get me to switch back, that whole relationship was over.

If you stay together, love her with all your heart. If not, it would be best to just go your separate ways. I am happy for her.

I no longer think to try to deploy this man. A few months ago, I just felt guilty ... But now I understand that my partner feels good along the way.

I would not say that we love each other. We are good friends and we have good sex.

[The thing]

My partner no longer wants to change into the female side. The partner said that he was fed up with women's dresses and wants to stop taking female hormones.

[Julia1996]

She had an orchi and now want to stop transitioning. Wow, that's a shame.

[The thing]

She had an orchi and now want to stop transitioning. Wow, that's a shame.

That is how it is. In addition, almost 1.5 years of hormone use were not necessary. How do I think I'm responsible for this?

[Dena]

This is one of the reason that therapy is important. Often we aren't sure of exactly what we are so therapy combined with a period of RLE before anything irreversible is done will tell us more about ourself. Another consideration is testosterone in a transgender MTF contributes to the dysphoria we feel. Eliminate the testosterone and we tend to feel far less dysphoria. This often can be experienced before surgery with a testosterone blocker and gives us a better idea what it will be like after surgery. Again this is a reason for a year of HRT before any surgery.

Now comes the question, which hormone will your partner chose to take. If it's testosterone and your partner is transgender, the dysphoria will return and that will indicate your partner is truly transgender. If no hormones are used, it's possible there will be health issues. This needs to be discussed with both a therapist and a doctors for the long term health of your partner.

As for your blame, your partner was part of the decision and could have said no at any point. Unfortunately hindsight is always 100% and decisions where made without enough knowledge. I don't think you should blame your self and now you need to be there to help your partner discover what they want for the future.

[The thing]

My partner probably did not experience dysphoria. Feminization was more like an adventure, a new experience. Apparently the adventure went too far and the partner finally realized it. I'll find out what this person will take as therapy. For now I can say that my partner is completely prostrate.

[Tessa James]

Well dear Thing life can be so interesting and then even incredible.  There are a multiple reasons a person may tire of clothing changes or transition.  While the novelty can feel adventuresome the reality of living even part time as a woman can take a lot of energy and stamina.   

Every step of transition we have the opportunity and responsibility as adults to really read and understand the fine print on the consent forms for medication and/or surgery.  This site demonstrates that the critical information is out there.  It is easy to acknowledge the challenges but maintaining resolve and resilience during this level of change is daunting.

Wavering about decisions is not uncommon.  I hope they take a good look and long pause with perhaps more counseling before anymore irreversible actions are decided on.   

[The thing]

There is a possibility that you are right. I hope that everything will clear up.

[Charlie Nicki]

Wow that must be tough. I suggest going to therapy as well so they can find out who they really are and what they really want. How are they feeling emotionally at the moment?

[The thing]

Wow that must be tough. I suggest going to therapy as well so they can find out who they really are and what they really want. How are they feeling emotionally at the moment?

The partner does not want to go to the specialists, I several times had biseds on this topic.

The partner feels emptied, apathetic, listless, there is also a certain disappointment and fatigue.

[Charlie Nicki]

So sorry to hear that

[Dena]

Hormones crashing after surgery can cause some of this. In addition the drop in hormones can cause emotions to be stronger and there is a possibility of depression. Unfortunately a therapist is needed as well as an endocrinologist to work out the correct hormone balance. Some how you need to get your partner to seek help.