Quote from: Donna on January 25, 2017, 05:42:24 PM
OK, good news.
A day after I came out to my wife, she started to try to imagine what life would be like with out me. She quickly came to the conclusion that we are bonded for life, and she is not going to let the fact that I intend to be a legal female before I die stand in the way of spending the rest of her life with me.
For now, she considers me her BFF. She cuddles me in bed as we sleep. She asks that for now I do not speak of sex between us. (Little change, because she really has been asexual for most of our 41 year marriage except when we were making babies.) She is cool with me forming friendships with other transgender people. She for now does not want to see me very often wearing a dress or skirt, though she says she understands that I might when I go out with new friends that I make. For now she asks that I do not come out to our mutual friends. We are still looking forward to traveling to Europe this April together, and doing many, many things together.
She says she may need a good deal of more time before I come out to mutual friends. I think she may at that time be OK with a legal name and gender change for me. Future.
My coming out to her did not end in my worst fear, being divorce. So far it did not result in a wild fantasy of mine that she would quickly help in my feminization and shop for clothes with me and help me do makeup and have a lesbian relationship with me. However over time, perhaps a long time we may approach my fantasy result.
My wife is beautiful, and I love her dearly.
I'm happy for you! I'm glad it's going well.
What your describing sounds much the same as what we are going through. We are in our late forties though, and sex is a bit more of an issue and I don't have an overwhelming desire to be a 'legal female', no desire now for SRS.
She is concerned about if I will still find her attractive or if I'll be more attracted to men. I had to tell her I'm already attracted to some men (Guy Martin gives me naughty thoughts) and that may increase due to HRT.
She is also concerned about exactly how 'female' I'm going to be, right now that is a Schrodinger's Cat for her. I tell her I most likely will continue to be a t-shirt and Jeans person, but my Comicon and Halloween costumes will most likely change. I'll get softer and look more feminine, which is OK with her, and I might develop small 'boobies' which is a bit harder for her.
I told her something I'm looking forward to is that when I go swimming I'll be able to float instead of sinking to the bottom.
And that brought up the question 'will you be wearing a bikini?' I told her I didn't know, but most likely I'll wear a t-shirt and trunks at first.
I guess why I am sharing these thing is that they are a few examples of the many many questions she has for me, and that the important thing I'm finding is that I can be completely open and honest with her now.
For both of us the new found honesty is the most important thing about this process and me coming out to her.
Anyway, I'm going to get my ears pierced today, Yay!
