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Discrimination/Jealousy within our own community?

Started by Cannabliss, January 31, 2017, 08:00:06 PM

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Tessa James

Would it seem then that our task in building a supportive community here and, in real life, is to openly acknowledge one another?  That we can clearly see you and welcome everyone to the table. There is no shortage of love but the challenge is to really feel empathy and compassion for one another. 

A good group facilitator ensures everyone gets a chance to speak or be recognized before the big mouths. like me, dominate the conversation.  This is not just fairness or a reference to Roberts Rules of Order but a way to build trust and gain confidence personally and as a community. 

Are we really threatened by another's success?  Can we appreciate the determination and dedication that it takes to get to any personal goal?  You worked hard to get here, you're wonderful!
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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cheryl reeves

Half the time I am scared to speak on topics for most times when I do I get a vacation. This site is my last resort to keep up with the t.g. community for I am permanently banned from many others because I'm not a liberal. I know discrimination real well. I know we need moderators too keep order and they do a real good job. Most times I get a vacation for speaking out and not attacking anyone, just speaking my thoughts on the matter. I'm sorry if I step on toes but shouldn't we have a independent voice also? I know I'm not popular and people find me nasty because I'm as southern as one can get,but being transgender had  been part of my life since I can remember but never seem to fit in with the transgender community,i've always been a outsider because I walk a different path then they do. I've never been chosen for anything most times people treat me like i don't exist and wish I would just go away. I never have intentionally meant to break any rules with  this group or treat people roughly but if a lot of you want i will leave and keep my distance from the t.g. community for he rest of my life and continue to be a outsider. In just  tired of the discrimination within My own community and being treated like I don't exist.

Cheryl Reeves
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FTMax

Cheryl,

I don't find you nasty. I'm southern. I'm conservative. I've made near 4000 posts here and never once had a vacation. If I can do it, so can you. You're welcome to post things that no one agrees with, but it can't be exclusionary or otherwise violate the TOS.
T: 12/5/2014 | Top: 4/21/2015 | Hysto: 2/6/2016 | Meta: 3/21/2017

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Tessa James

Hey Cheryl,

You and I have traded differing political opinions many times.  That does not make either one of us right, wrong or simply liberal.  We are way more than a single word label and we share this space and grace it with passion.  There is an owner to this site but I hope no one here is asking you to leave.

Please stay and continue to share your concerns and ideas with us.  There are people with privilege and our rides on this journey may vary but I doubt any of us have had it easy all the way.  It is important to hear from diverse perspectives and I think it helps us to avoid a reality bubble.

We see you, you most certainly exist and I wish you all the best.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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Devlyn

Big hug, Cheryl! You're a member of our community/family here. You never have to leave. We appreciate your views on gender and managing to get through life and marriage successfully. And girl, I got you beat hands down when it comes to trouble and vacations from the site!  :laugh:

You have strong political views, this probably isn't the right place for those particular discussions considering how many  sites are dedicated to politics alone. Time and place for everything, you know?  :)

Hugs, Devlyn
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RobynD

I am glad this community has people with different viewpoints than i do. It helps me to consider their position and helps me to not be stagnant in my own views on things. None of that should lead to discrimination. As long as everyone follows the TOS.


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LizK

Quote from: cheryl reeves on February 08, 2017, 05:36:49 PM
Half the time I am scared to speak on topics for most times when I do I get a vacation. This site is my last resort to keep up with the t.g. community for I am permanently banned from many others because I'm not a liberal. I know discrimination real well. I know we need moderators too keep order and they do a real good job. Most times I get a vacation for speaking out and not attacking anyone, just speaking my thoughts on the matter. I'm sorry if I step on toes but shouldn't we have a independent voice also? I know I'm not popular and people find me nasty because I'm as southern as one can get,but being transgender had  been part of my life since I can remember but never seem to fit in with the transgender community,i've always been a outsider because I walk a different path then they do. I've never been chosen for anything most times people treat me like i don't exist and wish I would just go away. I never have intentionally meant to break any rules with  this group or treat people roughly but if a lot of you want i will leave and keep my distance from the t.g. community for he rest of my life and continue to be a outsider. In just  tired of the discrimination within My own community and being treated like I don't exist.

Cheryl Reeves

I speak only for myself here...I have enjoyed the interactions we have had. I for one do not wish you to go away. All communities benefit from diversity of opinion and ours is no exception. 

Liz 
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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cheryl reeves

Wow ty,i know I tend to get passionate when it comes to the USA and tend to step over the line without meaning to. I love the interactions and helping others with my story. I remember one  time me and my wife we going to a meeting and I was running late because of car problems so didnt have time to dress and they freaked out for they hadn't seen me in male mode before even wearing a mustache they gave me a pass because of car issues but told me not to show up like that again. Oh there was a time when me and my wife got pulled over by a county mounty and when I handed him my drivers license he freaked for he saw two ladies in the car and was wondering why one carried a male id we sat there for 30 mins while he was in his car telling his buddies you won't believe this one...lol my wife has been the one who I give credit for me accepting the way I am and we have had adventures.
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barbie

A part of reasons for feeling discrimination/jealousy, I guess, is the user interface of this forum. It is a kind of commercial one, but not effective for interaction of users compared with Facebook or other web-based board programs. If possible, a brief comment or the Like/Unlike function may be added as in Facebook or other community sites. Just my thought of 2 cents.

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