A wife's support, I am soooo lucky

[barbie]

Its so awesome to hear all these stories of love.  The support that winds through these stories is born of love and it warms my heart.  I know I got lucky when I found my wife.  She's been very supportive in the 10 years we've been together.  I never get "the look" when I put something on (something I got from my ex for wearing pantyhose).  We have a busy life and lots of activities and some days (weekends especially) I find myself changing back and forth several times between guy and girl mode so we can do what we need to; that's ok with me.  One day I'd literally just changed into a skirt and hose and my wife says "lets get ice cream".  Now ice cream sounded good, but changing didn't.  She says, just wear your skirt in the car.  It was fun being out in a skirt; we covered up my legs in the drive thru with a blanket but I can see us doing this again.

I know its easy to get caught up in our own head space and thinking about our needs/wants.  I make it a point to think if hers... to read the situation and yes even at times forgo dressing so she has guy me to hang out with. I figure she's earned it with as much time as she spends with girly me.

Yes. I think women tend to be more flexible in their sexual orientation and preference. I have a dozen of admirers, and most of them are women.

barbie~~

[Veronique10]

Truly sorry to read the stories of unsupportive partners/spouses. It can be confusing for them. Fortunately, I can count myself in the "lucky" column. My GF knows and finds a certain comfort in it. When I first revealed to her, I also told her that the person she knows and loves is the way s/he is because of that very feminine side. Once she understood that, she became very supportive. Now she surprises me with sexy and soft things to wear, and dresses me up sometimes.

On the other hand, she has a certain understanding of it because she's told me on several occasions that she thinks her testosterone levels are higher than the average woman. So in many ways, we are a fit. She can be herself in being less afraid that she may not be "lady-like" enough, while I can allow myself to expressive in my femininity.

[KathyLauren]

I am truly lucky to have the support of my wife.  Within a minute of my coming out to her, she said, "Whatever you decide to do, I will support you."  Wow!  She meant it, too.

She has always had a soft spot for LGBT people, so, although she finds being in a same-sex marriage through no choice of her own to be a bit weird, she is okay with it.  We go clothes shopping together, which is fun.

One of her main motivations in life is the need to relieve boredom.  I can pretty much guarantee that, for better or for worse, the rest of our lives will not be boring. 

[SueNZ]

Michele and I recently spent 12 days in Australia.
On our last day we spent time shopping in Sydney and went to a department store where there was a whole floor dedicated to undergarments. I said that I needed some new panties and she agreed as she hated some of the ones I had bought without advice. After an hour walking through we both had updated our selections with me gaining an extra 8 pairs on the proviso the old ones go.

Then I said I need to get my nails done in a tongue in cheek comment as my nails had gotten long and I had no clippers to control them. Thats when she really surprised me and we went to a salon and while Michele had a Pedicure, I got to have my first manicure with a buff and shine. I wasn't confident enough this time to get clear polish applied. I will next time though. This was a thrilling little adventure and I enjoyed every minute of it.

[Yanira]

What a lovely feel good thread!

My wife and I recently bought the same dress in the sales. A little one for her and a big one for me of course! I got the kudos as I spotted it first and she liked it so much she wanted to get it too. We plan on wearing them together for a fun night out sometime.

[SueNZ]

My sons also support me, they bought me a voucher to a lingerie store for Christmas. My wife and I went shopping but failed to find anything at that time that would suit. To stay under the radar as I am not out in public, we shop on the pretence that it is for Michele and this works out well as we are both a size 16.
Today there is a pop-up store selling discounted cosmetics and we are going there tonight to see what bargains we can both score.

[Rayna]

I'm glad to see so many of you posting about your supportive wife/gf/so. I too have a wonderfully supportive wife, and after 32 years together that's of utmost importance to me.

For probably 5 years I secretly dressed (in her clothes), made my own breast forms, and wore them around the house when she was away. I finally started hinting and she got it. She loved that I could express my feminine side and took me clothes shopping. I think it was a surprising step when I wanted to wear a bra (and fill it with something) but she's fine with that, and took me bra shopping today.

We even went for a hike together today, with me dressed conservatively (misses jeans, wig, and a size A bra under t-shirt). To my surprise we encountered an old friend from child-raising days and had a conversation. I wasn't ready to come out and talk about it, so I'm sure she wandered off with interesting questions 

My first public appearance was at a big Halloween party at our local fine arts center with hundreds of people. Jacquie dressed in one of my suits, and I wore our daughter's high school prom gown. Since I was in "costume" I felt good about it. Ran into an old friend who was the event photographer, so I wound up on Facebook (but without my name).

Just glad it can work out for some of us, and for others, you have my support and positive thoughts.

[Jacqueline]

I'm glad to see so many of you posting about your supportive wife/gf/so. I too have a wonderfully supportive wife, and after 32 years together that's of utmost importance to me.

For probably 5 years I secretly dressed (in her clothes), made my own breast forms, and wore them around the house when she was away. I finally started hinting and she got it. She loved that I could express my feminine side and took me clothes shopping. I think it was a surprising step when I wanted to wear a bra (and fill it with something) but she's fine with that, and took me bra shopping today.

We even went for a hike together today, with me dressed conservatively (misses jeans, wig, and a size A bra under t-shirt). To my surprise we encountered an old friend from child-raising days and had a conversation. I wasn't ready to come out and talk about it, so I'm sure she wandered off with interesting questions 

My first public appearance was at a big Halloween party at our local fine arts center with hundreds of people. Jacquie dressed in one of my suits, and I wore our daughter's high school prom gown. Since I was in "costume" I felt good about it. Ran into an old friend who was the event photographer, so I wound up on Facebook (but without my name).

Just glad it can work out for some of us, and for others, you have my support and positive thoughts.

RandyL,

Welcome to the site.

Thanks for sharing your experience. Sounds like the way many of us who move ahead later in life have progressed. I hope you are able to move ahead at your own speed. Have you started visiting a therapist at all to work through this? Sometimes, even though the spouse supports us, they need to talk to a therapist on their own as well.

I also want to share some links with you. They are mostly welcome information and the rules that govern the site. If you have not had a chance to look through them, please take a moment:

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With warmth,

Joanna