what finally triggered my transition

[Rhonda333]

I've had large breasts all my life but kept them in a binder in male mode when I went out. One Sunday morning I was in shorts and a T shirt, no bra, when I opened my condo door to fetch my newspaper. It was usually just at the door sill, but that day it was 8' away. As I went after it my door slammed shut- locked.
I panicked knowing the only solution was to drive to my landlords house and borrow a key. And here I was with perfectly obvious C cups poking of of a white T shirt. I had to ask my cis female neighbor to drive me. All through the drive she kept glancing at my breasts- which of course jiggled at every bump. Finally I just had to tell her what was perfectly obvious. God I was embarassed and resolved to start the transition process immediately. Wish this would have happened years earlier. Anybody else got a story?

[JeanetteLW]

 Not like yours Rhonda,  Yours it of the type movies are made from. LOL Congrats on your decision to go for it.

  My own wasn't much of a story. I didn't give it much thought. I just found HRT meds were obtainable, researched what was needed, ordered them and started taken them when they arrived. I just knew that it was what I wanted to do. The good part is that doing so was the "trigger" to turn around, come out to my doctor and do it the right way.
  So far things have been going smoothly but I have yet to come out to anyone other than my medical providers.
  That is when the going will get rough.   Color me scared.

   Hugs,
    Jeanette

[Rhonda333]

I can understand fear of coming out. I tried to come out in baby steps but it didn't work. I posted this somewhere here but forgot where, BTW you have just beautiful hair and makeup. So polished.

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BTW you have just beautiful hair and makeup. So polished.

I totally agree! As my generation would say, #goals.

[JeanetteLW]

BTW you have just beautiful hair and makeup. So polished.

Do you mean me?  omg this is a cheap cosplay wig I bought. The makeup isn't right at all. I recently dumped all my old makeup and bought some new. the foundation is too dark, all the eye shadow I have is better suited to a night out at a club. I noticed I don't have any more neutral eye shadow. I do like the lipstick shade though and it is even flavored.
  Thank you both though for the complement but I have loads of work yet to do.  I used to do a decent makeup job about 20 years age when I had less wrinkles. I need to find a good mature lady look and get better makeup.

  Hugs,
   Jeanette

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You make that cheap wig look like a million bucks, Jeannette! You're a natural beauty. I dare you to accept the compliment.

[JeanetteLW]

You make that cheap wig look like a million bucks, Jeannette! You're a natural beauty. I dare you to accept the compliment.

  omg  You have me blushing.  But yes Though I question your eyesight I thank you for the compliment. This wig really is a cheap cosplay wigs I ordered online from Amazon for $13.65.  I do like the length and style though and it has a hint of purple to it. It does not like to be brushed or combed into any style other than the way it came.

  Thank you,
    Jeanette

[Rhonda333]

well its very nice Jeanette. I probably need to try styling my hair differently,, but the bob is just so effortless.

[JeanetteLW]

Rhonda,

   I think your hair looks pretty good. But I wish all your pictures I've seen so far were not full body shots. Though they are good shots, I would not mind seeing something a bit closer.

   I have several more wigs, a couple of better quality. I'll have to hunt them down again. It's such a pain when you have to hide all your special things, Some have been hidden too well. :-(


  Hugs,
    Jeanette

[davina61]

The desire to be female, coming out to my wife and getting chucked out and getting a flat where I can be Davina every night 

[Dena]

Rhonda,

   I think your hair looks pretty good. But I wish all your pictures I've seen so far were not full body shots. Though they are good shots, I would not mind seeing something a bit closer.

   I have several more wigs, a couple of better quality. I'll have to hunt them down again. It's such a pain when you have to hide all your special things, Some have been hidden too well. :-(


  Hugs,
    Jeanette

That's not to bad, today my mother couldn't figure out what happened to our grader and though somebody stole it. Fortunately I remembered that we loaned it to somebody a few months ago and after she though about it a little, she remembered as well. The picture is very similar to ours.

[JeanetteLW]

That's not too bad, today my mother couldn't figure out what happened to our grader and thought somebody stole it. Fortunately I remembered that we loaned it to somebody a few months ago and after she thought about it a little, she remembered as well. The picture is very similar to ours.

OMG Too funny Dena

   Hugs,
     Jeanette

[Michelle_P]

Wigs, graders, lingerie...  We all misplace little odds and ends sometimes.  They often turn up later.

😉

[JeanetteLW]

Wigs, graders, lingerie...  We all misplace little odds and ends sometimes.  They often turn up later.

😉

   Yes, they do.  Sometime the timing and/or circumstances are embarrassing.

  Hugs,
    Jeanette

[Janes Groove]

The Final Straw

The trigger for me was when my parents were out of the picture for the first time in my life. My dad died in 2007 and in the Spring of 2015 my mom's Alzheimer's progressed to the point where we had to put her in a locked memory care facility.  I can still hear the sound of the lock clicking when I left the memory care facility that afternoon.  That night, sitting in my house, I realized that there were no more obstacles remaining to my lifelong dream of becoming a woman and I began planning my transition. (And yes Jeanette I totally get your reluctance to come out.  After 57 years of hiding it took me another 6 months to finally screw up my courage to do so.)  By Thanksgiving I was out and started presenting female full time.  Then I started seeing a gender therapist and by summer 16' I was on HRT. Hopefully, I will get my surgery before year's end. I'll be starting my pre-GCS electrolysis today.

As a side note: Just imagine all the energy that is released when one doesn't have to hide anymore. Doesn't have to live a double life.  Imagine if gender non-conforming people felt no need whatsoever to hide.  All the energy that we spend for so many years after years after years. Energy spent on hiding.  Imagine that energy now going to other purposes. Imagine the progress this would provide our communities and families and society as a whole

[JeanetteLW]

As a side note: Just imagine all the energy that is released when one doesn't have to hide anymore. Doesn't have to live a double life.  Imagine if gender non-conforming people felt no need whatsoever to hide.  All the energy that we spend for so many years after years after years. Energy spent on hiding.  Imagine that energy now going to other purposes. Imagine the progress this would provide our communities and families and society as a whole

   And the money.... don't forget all the money spent on bad prchases, on all the purging.

  Hugs,
   Jeanette

[CarlyMcx]

For me it was the panic attacks.  I fought them for ten years with everything my doctor and I could think of before I realized what was causing them, and that transitioning was the only way to be free of them.