Closeted FTM trans* help.

[GarrettGreen]

I'm new. I'd just like to see if there are any Trans* FTMs who know a think or two about waiting it out (meaning having to wait for a long period of time to transition due to circumstances). Even if you don't, I'd like to get some advice on passing and getting through dysphoria pre-T. I also just need friends because a lot of mine just can't grasp what is going on. Thanks.


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[Daniellekai]

I'm not FTM, but just from having read the threads here, cutting your hair short, getting a binder seem to help them through the early periods, I've also heard there can be health risks to binding though so that's something to research properly... Even if you can't get men's clothes for some reason you can keep it to simple jeans, t shirt, sneakers.

I'm sure a friendly FTM member will have more to say though.

I'm sort of in the same boat at the moment, I'm starting the process to get hormones, but sort of doing the opposite of that advice has helped me, started to grow my hair out, I fit in frills where I can get away with it, and since I've already got the T figured I'd use it to my advantage and work out my hips and thighs to make them look more feminine.

[MeTony]

I'm new. I'd just like to see if there are any Trans* FTMs who know a think or two about waiting it out (meaning having to wait for a long period of time to transition due to circumstances). Even if you don't, I'd like to get some advice on passing and getting through dysphoria pre-T. I also just need friends because a lot of mine just can't grasp what is going on. Thanks.


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Hello GarrettGreen.

I have been waiting a looong time. First because I did not know transgender existed, second was a phase of denial that lasted for 10 years. But it is like an itch you can't scratch. Eventually it will take over your life and there is no turning back.

Tips on how to pass, if you pass depends on lots of things. Your body, your cloths, your voice and mannerism.

Secretly study men in everyday situations, how they walk, talk and move. Copy that to make your own style. Cloths are the easy part, if you are not ready to bye cloths in a men's store, you can wear unisex cloths.

Binder can be helpful. If you don't have gigantic boobs like me. I try to hide them in big sweaters. Sometimes I succeed and sometimes I don't.

I can be your friend if you want.

[GarrettGreen]

Thanks! I'm happy to get friends. Also I have a trans friend who gave me his old binder. I think it's a size too big, but it'll work until I am an adult who can make their own life decisions. I only found out this past summer and became sure when I started high school this year. I didn't even know what it was until 7th grade and that was when I started thinking about it. Honestly, a tip for you and myself would be to save up for top surgery. I have boobs that are on the bigger side as well, and I can barely control them. The sad part is that I used to have a military like posture before all this came up. Now I've gotten myself stuck in a slouch. It would be wonderful to get this weight lifted. Anyways, hope we can talk more. [emoji3]


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[FTMax]

I waited 8 years to transition from the time I knew that transitioning was possible. I wanted to save up enough money in order to do it quickly. It sucked waiting, but it was manageable and I honestly don't feel like I missed out on anything.

Binding helped a lot. I didn't start packing until after top surgery, but if you have downstairs dysphoria now, that might help.

Having supportive partners who understood that I didn't really want to be naked/be touched was important.

As far as passing pre-T, work on your voice, cut your hair, choose appropriate clothing. Passing pre-T is tough.

[GarrettGreen]

Thanks! I keep my spirits up by thinking about how much better I'll feel when I can finally start transitioning. Others help a whole lot as well. [emoji3]


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[MeTony]

I am lucky to live in Sweden. Public insurance covers top surgery. And down stairs correction too.