Curveballs after significant RLE?

[Brooke]

So I'm fast approaching my 1 year of RLE, and I'm kind of on auto pilot now. Living as female is now just normal everyday stuff.

Whilst this is amazing and feels natural I can't help but still worry every now and again that a big issue is going to come out of nowhere.

I've done as much of the legal changes I can? In as many of the places I can think of- for both name and gender marker.

Was/is there anything that caught you off guard once you settled into full time?

The only thing that I still get thrown by are some accounts or contacts that I use very rarely and were not even on my radar.

Anybody have something significant come up after you thought everything was "finished" from a social or legal aspect?

I guess I'm feeling like I'm missing something that will seem obvious in retrospect. Imagine that it's because the legal hoops and all the places where my name and gender are documented were far more in numbers and complexity.

I suspect that this feeling is because there was a constant next step to take and now that there isn't an obvious next step it feels like I'm missing something.

Any thoughts?

[Barb99]

I'm about 15 months RLE and now post op. It is a wonderful feeling just settling into a normal life! I thought I was done with all of the records updates, but I had forgotten about my pilots license. Now I find I have to go update that in person. urrrrrrr, I hate having to out myself!
I also ran into a catch 22 with my birth cert. but that will get worked out eventually.

[Sydney_NYC]

2½ years after changing everything I could think of imaginable, I got a jury duty notice under my dead (and obviously male) name. The funny thing was that it was from the same courthouse that I did my name change under. It really wasn't a big deal. When I checked in online there was even an option to update your name if it had changed (even first name.) A week after I did the online update I called to confirmed the name change and no issues.

I still get junk mail under my dead name at home. (Also get it under my now legal name.)

[AnneK]

Bring lots to read for jury selection.  I went through that a few years ago.  It was 4 days of mostly waiting.  You will have lots of time to kill.

BTW, I didn't get selected.  There were so many there, they had all the jurors they needed before they even got to me.

[Brooke]

Thanks! Only other thing that I forgot about were academic transcripts.

Guess it is just the contrast of having to constantly charge stuff and then having all of that completed.


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[Sydney_NYC]

Bring lots to read for jury selection.  I went through that a few years ago.  It was 4 days of mostly waiting.  You will have lots of time to kill.

BTW, I didn't get selected.  There were so many there, they had all the jurors they needed before they even got to me.

This happened this past October. I did get selected as a juror for a homicide case that was pretty high profile. (I was out of town for several months when it happened and didn't know anything about it.) I was the last one to be dismissed during the peremptory challenges at the end of the selection/weeding process. It was kind of exciting in one way, but glad I didn't have to sit on the jury because it was over a 2½ month long trial and was in the local papers.

[AnneK]

I was up for 2 trials, one murder and one drug smuggling.  The murder one would have been interesting because the police essentially framed the suspect.  It was also covered extensively in the papers.