Quote from: lisawb on March 20, 2017, 01:54:50 PM
Your level of confidence and contentment in your body I believe is something we all seek. I think in a perfect world, just like most cis-women, many of the trans women here would love to have a body we felt was the perfect female form. So to that I say congratulations on your achievement. Not your body per se (although that's awesome in its own right) but for finding that level of confidence and happiness.
Sadly, as much as many of us would love to have that barbie body, most of us trans women have to accept that years of testosterone have damaged our bodies beyond any ability to achieve that image. For me my broad shoulders, wide chin and man hands/feet will forever prevent me from achieving that ideal look. However, that does not mean I won't find the same confidence and happiness that you have. So I've come to accept that and look forward to many positive days similar to yours that inspired this post.
Thanks for sharing your happiness with us. That is so great to see that you've found such joy through your transition.
Thank you so very much, Lisa. You are doing very well, too, girl !!! Well, TBH the emotional effects of tranquility and feeling that I can handle and manage even difficult relationship issues romantically, socially, and at work plus handle almost any problem with emotional confidence is the most valuable and incredible feeling I've ever experienced in my life other than my very transition to beautiful JENNIFER.
You are much like me in congratulations others on stellar happiness and achievements without jealousy. I myself rarely feel jealous of anyone. Live and let live. When during these years of transition I saw a model with aspects of her body more beautiful than mine, I thought to myself: "Wow ! How great that she has been able to shine and glow like this. Now, is there anything that I can do to bring myself closer to having a model's body like hers ? " Now, years later, I am finally achieving the perfect Barbie model's body I've dreamed of since age 11.
Part of this takes some luck though for sure Lisa. But there are some things you might be able to do that possibly could help you, for example with some of the things you mentioned. My shoulders shrunk a ton from what they were years ago -- I have taken Progesterone for most of the years of my HRT transition (natural progesterone such as either Prometrium or Micronized Progesterone) which probably only about half of the doctors in the USA, Canada, and the UK prescribe so you need a favorable doctor depending on what country you are in. I've spent much of my transition time in countries which do NOT require prescriptions for HRT hormones (nor for that matter for antibiotics) but most English speakers live all or most of the time in countries where you will need a collaborative doctor.
My feet have shrunk a FULL SHOE SIZE from years ago -- my hands now look super feminine as do my feet as many people face-to-face now remark to me. It's true you cannot change bone size but for sure you CAN reduce muscle and tissue size, reduce muscle and tissue strength, make your muscles and tissues MUCH more feminine -- and get your body fat re-distributed away from the wrong places and showing in all the right places !
To those who cannot achieve the body they want through mostly hormones there are also available some major surgeries to help with this. Some cost a rather large sum of money, though -- but usually work ! I did get a boob job and lipo recently, but I will never need FFS or any stuff like this. My Adam's apple area has always been feminine so this will never be an issue for me. As to skin tone and quality, beside hormonal stuff there are also certain wonderful creams and lotions. Also, diet is super important. For example for more than a decade now I've eaten ONLY fresh fruits and water for breakfast. 90 % of the liquids I drink is water. Refined sugar poisons my body, destroys my body, and reduces my life so I now rarely have soft drinks. I have never smoked tobacco, I don't use ANY drugs including ZERO prescription drugs except my female hormones. I drink half a beer once every month or two at the most just to be sociable with my friends. I gave up beef totally more than a decade ago because it was destroying my digestive system -- beef is poison to me. For meats I now eat only chicken, turkey, and fish. I eat large amounts of fruits and vegetable every single day. I drink 3 to 5 quarts/litres of water every day. Cheers ! Jennifer xx
