Does your current partner know your trans?

[Michelle_P]

Well, my most recent partner, my spouse of 39 years, knows as of a year ago.  The divorce will be finalized next month.

Some people simply cannot accept this truth about ourselves.  Many can.

[Paige]

My wife of 30 years has known almost since the beginning.  Well as much as we understood back then.  We thought we could get through this and never realized what a struggle dysphoria is.  We're up and down now.  I'm on low dose E.  If I transition we're through. 

Take care,
Paige

[staciM]

My wife has known since we began dating 25 years ago.  At first I identified it as crossdressing although I knew deep inside it has always been something else.  Throughout our relationship we have had some stumbles over the years trying to come to terms and get in sync with the truth.    However, now that it's all out in the open and medical transition has started we are in the best place we've ever been.  She's my rock and biggest supporter!!!  I feel sorry for anyone that treats me with disrespect while she's around

[Colleen_definitely]

Yes she knows.  Apparently I had been dating a closet lesbian this whole time. 

[Ella2Marques]

My spouse is married with me since 25 years, and she knows since the 1st day. I am full time now for 2 years but in the last year thing are going very wrong and I think our relationship is soon over. last try with a counselor this Friday.

Last week she told me, I should go back being a man. Today she told me that it was terrible the time I was depressed, smoking too much, drinking too much and going to bed in a nightgown. I did something about it and now she constantly harasses me in all I do, everything is wrong. We have an open marriage since one year, all the problems started then.

[staciM]

Yes she knows.  Apparently I had been dating a closet lesbian this whole time. 

+1   Since my transition has started my wife has acknowledged the same to friends and family.  Makes this much easier

[RobynD]

I have two current partners; my wife of many years. She knows and has been supportive in general. Nevertheless it has been hard on us on many levels. We continue to strive for unity and a deeper friendship. She has trouble calling me by my chosen name, she has trouble introducing me as her wife. I cannot blame her for these sorts of things.

The second is a boyfriend i have been with about 5 months. He is very supportive, one of the kindest and most affirming people i have ever met. No hidden agendas, progressive and helpful to everyone.

[Nari]

My wife has known since we started dating.  Recently we both decided that I should start hormones and she is very supportive.  She does sometimes stress-out that after hormones I won't be attracted to her though.

[LaRell]

Yes, my wife is fully aware.  But, I still live every day life as a man and only dress like a woman kind of conservatively around her at home.  Even though I would love to go full time.  She is straight and loves my manly self.  So it is a struggle to not want to be the manly person that she loves so much, but loving her and not wanting to rock her world in that way.

[I Am Jess]

I currently do not have a partner but everyone I've slept with since I've been in transition has known.

[Tammy Jade]

Yes she knows.  Apparently I had been dating a closet lesbian this whole time. 

+1 to that.
When I told my wife she was initially not sure about the logistics of it but quickly became my biggest supporter.


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[femfem]

Just curious whether or not your current partner knows.

Yeah, and he loves it. Lol.

[Lynne]

She knows, she is also MtF, we met on a local transgender website.

[laurenb]

She who is my partner of 25 years has known for going on 5 years explicitly that I am trans when I came out to her and has been very supportive. Prior to that she used to encourage me to be in touch with my female side. She was originally attracted to my long legs. Maybe she knew something intuitively. Who knows? She and I both see the same therapist. This worked out to be such a great thing. Our therapist always knows both sides of the story.

She also has a chronic incurable disease that gets progressively worse over time. We both worry about the future relative to each others "thing". I'm careful not to make any action that would heap stress on her. That's one of the reasons my transition is a slow moving, albeit ever progressing, event. It's ok though. In fact, in a rather paradoxical way, I realized that my compromising some of my needs or delaying gratification for the sake of others is an innate female trait that I've always had. Strange way to self validate but we get it where we can...