Self image

[ImSomething]

Hi everyone!

So I have a problem that I think is a little weird and I don't quite know what to make of it. For a long time I thought I had no dysphoria because sometimes when I see myself I get this warm, fuzzy feeling (which I had interpreted as contentment). The weird thing is I get the same exact feeling when there is a guy that I'm attracted to. I used to tell myself when I was denying my being bisexual that I would get that feeling when I saw a particularly attractive guy because I identified with what I saw. But I find now that I have an actual tangible sense of self when I see a more feminine self. It's almost like I started seeing myself as another person, as a guy I was attracted to, as a way of coping? Does that make sense? Does anyone have any comparable experiences?  :/

Thank you for the support, everyone.

[Daniellekai]

Makes sense to me, I don't necessarily identify with the guy in the mirror, I pretty much had no motivation to be fit and attractive fit my entire male life, so I'm somewhat repulsed by that guy. Falling in love with yourself sounds awfully narcissistic, but with a detachment of the self it's a bit different I'd say...

[SailorMars1994]

I guess its not too far out of the question of reasonableness.

[ImSomething]

Makes sense to me, I don't necessarily identify with the guy in the mirror, I pretty much had no motivation to be fit and attractive fit my entire male life, so I'm somewhat repulsed by that guy. Falling in love with yourself sounds awfully narcissistic, but with a detachment of the self it's a bit different I'd say...

I had thought I identified with the guy in the mirror, but I think I was tricking myself into confusing attraction with identity as a way of coping with my dysphoria. I also had no actual motivation to become fit or improve myself, either.