Came out to my Friend Thursday

[Artesia]

I went to Adepticon on Thursday, and on the way home told my friend, whom I was staying with at the time, about my decision to transition.  He asked me two questions about it, then dropped the subject and continued to discuss gaming. He gave me a ride the next day to my parents house, and everything stayed pretty much normal between us.  We'll see how things progress from here.

Now for family.

[Denise]

Artesia,

    I'm not sure how many people you've told but this is my experience - GUYS DON'T CARE.  Your experience is EXACTLY the same as I've had over and over and over.... and over and over.

    Telling cis-female friends is a totally different story.  They will, potentially, ask questions (as long as you give them explicit permission) until you are late for whatever you have next.  I told about a 20 people at work individually, always over lunch and with only one maybe two exceptions the guys didn't ask more than 1 question.  The ladies however were a different story.

     Funny thing was a male Senior Executive Vice president actually skipped a conference call to talk about it.  That really shocked me.  Bottom line - allow plenty of time when you tell women and you can probably tell guys in an elevator trip (Yes, I did that once from the 7th floor to the lobby!)

[Dena]

  That really shocked me.  Bottom line - allow plenty of time when you tell women and you can probably tell guys in an elevator trip (Yes, I did that once from the 7th floor to the lobby!)

I think I have been on an elevator like that. It was a heavy duty freight elevator in the TWA section at LAX. It must have taken a minute to go up one floor. 

[amberwaves]

I have noticed no correlation between the reaction and gender of the person told.  Some have questions some don't.  I think it has more to do with the individual.

[Artesia]

I don't have a lot of friends.  My one female friend knew before my wife.  I talked to her before I knew myself.  Even before I went to a therapist.  It was a "I'm thinking, maybe" situation.  We talked for several hours, but she has been fine with it, and has offered to help pick makeup colors for me.  My co-workers, so far, have all been happy for me and were wondering why my demeanor had changed at work.  I still have a couple to talk to about it.