Will people be attracted to me, and in the right way?

[Harry_1]

I'm FtM and have no means of transitioning in the near future. As far as I know I am mainly attracted to queer men. I'm wondering, have other trans people on here had success with dating, even pre-any transition? And, how have you ever become satisfied that the person you're dating is attracted to you as your gender, as opposed to your sex assigned at birth, if you still have the body of that sex? What do you think is the likelihood of a gay man being attracted to me, an untransitioned trans guy? Thanks everyone.

[Sluggy]

Yo!

My experience is definitely different, but I can say for sure that:
- Age plays a large role. If you're younger, it's easier to meet peers usually, and more young people are aware of LGBTQ+ specifics
- Location plays a role. If there aren't many gay men around you, the odds of them dating/having experience with a trans man vary
- What kind of people you hang around affects this. I generally have only been close friends with LGBTQ people and strong Allies, and as a result, my social circles generally have people in them that are either like me, or willing to date people like me.

Hope this helps

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[maksim]

I haven't had any firsthand experience with this (my girlfriend is bisexual so it's never really come up), but I do have a trans friend who has had many partners (all cis men) and he's still very pre-everything and will be for many more years due to circumstances in his country. Some of his sexual partners have only been in it because of the fact that he's pre-everything trans, but others have been very kind and caring.
It's entirely possible to find someone who will treat you right! It may take some digging, but it's not unlikely.
All of the factors that Sluggy listed are important to consider when looking for people, too.

[DemonRaven]

Confidence goes a long way. Build up your confidence and you will attract people.

[Harry_1]

Thank you so much everyone, this is all very reassuring!

[Kylo]

Being this way complicates dating and relationships for sure but doesn't make them impossible. People seem to sugar coat the reality a bit.

Gay men are considered most difficult to attract, but you never know. There are as many possibilities as there are people.