Can daily misgendering make you doubt yourself?

[Shy]

Misgendering doesn't make me doubt that I'm trans. It's just like wading through treacle sometimes, especially if I'm having 'one of those days'. But on the whole people are just going about their business, and I view it as such.
What I absolutely can't stand is when someone makes it obvious they are misgendering me. I just look at them right in the eyes and they soon flinch. Well mostly.

[Jacqueline]

Sometimes it seems like people go out their way to misgender. Like, someone with long hair and makeup (sure straight cis guys can have long hair and makeup, but they wouldn't do it like a woman) and dressed effeminately obviously wishes to be seen as female, and even if you don't perceive them as a ciswoman, it's clear the wish to be perceived as such.

I dunno, sometime it just seems harsh.

At the risk of being overly sensitive, I would like to remind everyone that there are assigned male's who may have long hair and make up like a cis woman's and can be perceived as such. Likewise there are people who might choose to have long hair and make up that dress effeminately and yet don't want to be perceived as a cis woman. Lets be aware that words can be powerful and choose them carefully. We have members all along the gender spectrum here.

Sincerely,

Joanna

[Katiepie]

For those who have a fleeting feeble mind, misgendering could lead to undesirable ideas and perception. For some it may be extrapolated to add stress or anxiety to an every day principle.

Be it accidental, or meaning as a negative, misgendering for me is a slight non-issue. With family, I understand that as I go through transition, they are as well, so I just wave that off. With co-workers, dependent of who it is, I know who does it with malice, and those who just accidentally slip; I just justify it as a non issue, due to those who correct themselves, or I just consider my well-being as I don't need extra drama. To everyone else who does so, I just don't let it get to me.

Sometimes though I tend to mentally roll my eyes, or face-palm, when it happens. On bad days, it does get to me slightly, but then I also realize that my journey is still in the infant stages, so perception of right now does not equate to when I do kick off my journey into adolescence, and adulthood.

The thing is with my own concept of active meditation has helped me greatly as a 24/7 state of mind, it helps me define myself, and clearly take things with a grain of salt. My actions make my own living standards just flow with only slight turbulence.

What I can do is recommend others who may not think like I do, is just relax. If there is say something that you do not agree with, don't let it get toward the emotional sector, look at it from a different perspective, and then you can come to terms with that said proposal, and give it a solid "shove off" and turn it into a non-issue.