nerves rewiring?

[Nuuni]

My husband has been finding all sorts of new places to touch me and such to make me doy.. Stuff. Not all fun bed stuff but a lot. However, a lot of them to me just feel like an error message, an undefined vague lack of sensation that doesn't prevent my body from reacting as expected. It's a bit disconcerting, is there anything I can do to get past it?

[Dena]

I don't know if it's the same for you but I tend to tense up when touched in some ways. I know it's because of a lack of trust and because I don't want to get in the mood for the person. You might consider if you still have some discomfort with areas of your body or if you need a little different mindset before being touched.

[Nuuni]

That sounds like a great answer for a different question.
It is with my husband of about eight years or so. I adore him and we talk a lot. And I am trying hard to encourage him!
My issue right now is that he will touch me, and I will feel a distinctive sensation of "ERR_UNRECOGNIZED_INPUT:unsupported data input - please debug your software drivers".

[Dena]

I don't know if you have ever heard of the horse whisper but he can break a wild horse to be saddle ready using little more than touch. He starts out with light touches moving up to the point where he rubs his hands all over the horse. What this does is it make the horse trusting and comfortable with his touch and removes the spook factor of being touched unlike in the wild. This isn't a new concept as the american indians used this method to break horses as well.

Possibly what your body need is training where you are repeatedly touched and rubbed so the body and brain becomes comfortable with it as a part of affection.

[Nuuni]

Yeah, that's what he has been doing. I'm very comfortable with it... I just... Don't really know understand how to interpret it into an actual sensation..?

And seriously, don't get me wrong, at some point there tends to be flailing and screaming and gasping for breath and the like involved.... I just wish I could feel any of it while it was happening?

Me being totally asexual (albeit sex-favorable and sex-positive and possessing a libido) cannot be helping here, but I just don't understand the issue. I assume it's some kind of transitory HRT-related, second puberty complications something.

[Rayna]

I think it's a learning thing, and it will come (so to speak). I had to learn to respond to my wife handling my penis. It took a few months for me, and also some training for her. And vice versa.