hey I am trying to figure out when is the appropriate time to send someone a message. Sometimes I really want to PM someone but then I'm not sure if it would be weird or not
I just sometimes don't want to post things in threads because they're a little off topic or the conversation has moved on or I'd rather just have a more private discussion without announcing details to the entire thread because it notifies everyone and the thread is sometimes a little old and...yeah you get the idea.
But then they don't know me, so I don't know if it's creepy
In addition, what do I do when I want to compliment someone on here? In real life, I'd just say "oh nice hair, by the way" but online everything's all permanent and that permanence makes things a little confusing on what's weird. I know how to handle things on other sites but this forum is basically a huge support group so I don't know how to handle anything on here. No amount of lurking has made me understand the etiquette. I understand the rules well enough, but what is polite? No idea.
Someone please help me