I've always been a bit forward and assertive in pursuing romantic interests and this continued as i began to transition. I think it really is a numbers game and although you will likely have your heart broke a couple times and have other uncomfortable situations, but also you make friends and likely meet someone that clicks. There is no "the one" there is a lot of people that would just "work" though.
I've been dating a newly divorced guy for about 4 months and i am lovestruck. We still can't wait to see one another and we both light up when we see one another from a break of a couple days. Is he bi? i don't know what to label it but he has been with a guy before so maybe pansexual. Most of his romantic life has been two marriages to cis women though and his ex is beautiful. He could easily have women better looking than me if he wanted i see them looking all the time, but whatever combination of me, my looks and my friendship, work for him, they work.
One thing is that i don't really expect "traditional relationships" with people (my standard disclaimer on all relationship threads, i am openly married). I don't expect monogamy, i don't expect that the relationships " are going anywhere". i don't assume time with him at the expense of the rest of his life. What i do expect is that we become awesome friends first and foremost and the romantic and physical stuff can fall in line behind that.
My boyfriend and I tell each other I love you etc. so it has progressed that far. If this or any other relationship wants to become "traditional" then it may happen at the appropriate time.
No matter what, you are a woman with appealing aspects of your personality, values and looks that some guy will be happy to be with. Like the poster above said and i totally agree; you have to get out in the world and meet people in all types of situations and you may have to be somewhat assertive in pursuing someone.
