Do You Tell People You are Trans Female? I seldom do = not necessary.

[jamjam]

Hi, I have been lurking for a while and I thought I would chime in. Everybody has to find their own sense of self and peace with this stuff, however my answer is most definitely not. My medical condition does not, and will never define me in anyway, especially as an assumed identity. I am just a female. I do have a medical condition that needed some serious attention and focus For all intents at this point it has been treated and dealt with.

My medical history will never ever become part of my labeled or assumed identity. It is a mind set. I have also survived cancer and I will never assume the identity of, or label myself a cancer survivor either. Neither condition owns me in any way or labels me in the identity department. I do not believe in the labels and the stuff that goes along with it. The only time I divulge my medical history is when it is medically necessary to do so.

[LizK]

Hi Jamjam

Welcome to Susan's. I hope you enjoy your time here.

I agree with your sentiments...I have a chronic illness which I only ever tell people when it becomes relevant. I don't lead with "Hi I am Liz and I have (Name condition)"

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[Rebecca]

Nope I'm just female at this point

Same

The most I ever got during transition was 1 drunken ned  (juvenile delinquent) that had to ask me to try find his answer. In fairness I looked really horrific that day after 3h electrolysis sporting a face like a well skelped arse, more than a little bit tipsy and my hair an absolute riot so I'm kinda impressed he had to ask lol

Apart from that the world seems to see me as I see me; just another woman.

I'm not inclined to argue with them

[Jin]

I don't tell anything. I am just me, people can make up their own minds and I don't give a rat's elbow what they decide. One look and it is pretty obvious that I have both male and female body characteristics.

And I already have enough romantic connections to suit me.

[pretty pauline]

No never, I'm just a woman, if they asked more, I'm a married woman, the world just sees me as another housewife.

[jujubes1986]

I don't usually tell ppl but if they ask I will


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[Sophia Sage]

I don't usually tell ppl but if they ask I will

A day may come when no one ever asks anymore.

[Gail20]

I pass pretty well and have been out for 10 years.  I'm fairly well known and accepted in the Lesbian community.  Sadly, I've found that my initial conversations with new women I meet have a closeness that only women know. When we talk we stand closer together, there can be more friendly non-intimate touching and the conversation seems to be one with an underlying shared experience. Then, very often, these women find out that I am Trans and these niceties go away.  The conversations and relationships are good and I can live with it  . . . but its not the same as when they don't know.

[ainsley]

I don't tell anyone.  People may clock me, but I've never been asked about it when they did.
I have transitioned to female and don't feel I need to tell anyone that, even people that knew me before.  I am pretty sure they can figure it out.

[Barb99]

I don't tell anyone. If someone figures it out then I'm happy to talk about it, but I don't feel the need to tell. I do have one exception to this. I have started dating and if I meet someone and we hit it off I will tell them before we go to a second date.
I transitioned in the open and still live and work in the same old places, so if someone hangs around with me long enough they will probably find out eventually. If I'm trying to build a relationship with someone I would not want them to find out through the grape vine.

[ghostbees]

At the moment I do disclose the fact that I'm trans,  purely because I don't pass well and I have not taken hormones yet. I suspect in the near future I will be stealth at least to strangers.



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