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Started by Larisa, April 11, 2017, 09:20:21 PM

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Larisa

I cannot blame others I guess and most of all not family but male pronouns just bother me. I cannot stop it like the sir thing. I can make excuses for not liking the sir label and no one would know Im a girl. They just stop using sir is all.

Being called he, him, his or even being referenced to things that include say the word men. I dont know what it is to be a man. I wouldnt know as Im a girl. It sometimes bothers me worse one day than say the next. I have to remind myself they intend no disrespect as they dont know. It does suck as it is completely the opposite of who I am but Ive tried to stay positive about that it's a label and could never define me.

I do hope one day everyone can know Larisa. It's just so hard to let people know.
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CharleeGrrl

I know exactly what you mean. And after a few years on hormones and living as a woman, I'm identified as a woman and referred to as "ma'am" or "miss" almost all the time now. Others may know the truth about my physiology, particularly other women.
   But it makes no difference. I am who I AM. And NOT who others may think I am. I define me. And that's true for you as well. Have faith. And know that you will succeed! There's a lot of love for you out here, and right now you are in my heart.

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Steph(Fairgirl)

Hi Larisa,
I understand how you feel as I know how much it hurts inside to be addressed by the wrong pronoun.
For myself it happens very rarely now and is genuinely a slip of the tongue when said by friends or colleagues. They are really sorry for their mistake.
      I have first hand experience from their side when a colleague said that her real name was Sayran - not Sarah as we all know her and that she prefers to be addressed as Sayran.
     It takes time for the brain, I think,to take in + fuly process + reprogram itself to new ,and sometimes , difficult concepts.
   I made a conscious decision to call my colleague Sayran but found myself slipping up from time to time. I don't slip up anymore - but it was a valuable lesson to me that when people have addressed me as other than Steph, or her,she etc..they feel bad about it.
   Also,you tend to get an instinctual feeling when someone is being intentionally hurtful.
   Be strong and be patient. You will be fine.
   I hope this helps
   Steph(Fairgirl)
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