what am I?

[dannynlex06]

I am happily married to a wonderful wife. But I sense inside of me a feminine side. I obviously have a certain amount of Androgyny to my personality. I like to dress up in women's clothes. And yes I do fantasize about guys. Being in a sexy dress and being treated like a girl is something that is atteractive to me. However, I am not sure I want to engage in sexual contact because I am happily married and I want to stay that way. But I do not have any desire to transform into a girl. I can't figure out if this means I am Transgendered, Transexual or ->-bleeped-<-. Obviously, i am a Crossdresser. But what exactly describes who I am? What do I call this? Any thoughts?

[Devlyn]

Hi dannynlex06, welcome to Susan's Place! You're one in a long procession seeking a label.    I think you'll find that accepting yourself as the unique bundle of gender that you are is more important than what it's called. I can say with certainty that transgender fits because it's an umbrella term that includes everything you listed in your post.

See you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn

[Janes Groove]

Welcome to the club Dannynlex06. That's a tough question. The answers you seek are all inside you waiting to be discovered. A good gender therapist can help sort it out and find the answer and some peace of mind as well.

[Jacqueline]

Hi Dannynlex,

Welcome to the site. I agree that you seem to be transgender. However, the spectrum is vast on different axis. There are perhaps too many labels in the world. Here are a few more, gender fluid, non-binary. I think a gender therapist is a good place to start. There seem to be more and more people coming to terms with a non-binary spot on the spectrum.

I however, am binary and would love to give up the male parts(in all the potential ways). I am happily married to a woman I fell in love with over 25 years ago. I have three teen daughters. What I am saying is I know how hard it is to confront these things from a place of comfortable stability. Then the thoughts and urges come... Thanks for sharing such a tough thing. It is a brave act, especially when one is uncertain of what any of it means or even who you are deep down.

I also want to share some links with you. They are mostly welcome information and the rules that govern the site. If you have not had a chance to look through them, please take a moment:

Things that you should read

Site Terms of Service & Rules to Live By	Standard Terms & Definitions	Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar)
Reputation rules	News posting & quoting guidelines	Photo, avatars, & signature images policy

Once again, welcome to Susan's. Look around, ask questions and join in.

With warmth,

Joanna

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. Labels aren't all that important around here because this is the place you go to figure yourself out. Transgender is a label that covers everything and pretty much everybody on the site. Other than that, there are sub labels which you will have to figure out for yourself. Two links you might want to look at are our WIKI and "the transition channel" . These are not exhaustive but cover most of the common feelings that a member might have. Feel free to ask any additional questions you might have and somebody will most likely answer it.