We're not on top of the wedding cake

[Monica Jean]

I wrote this as a vehicle to describe the lonliness of being transgender. People don't dream of marrying a trans person when they're younger. If they do, I've never heard a young woman say "can't wait to find a transgender figurine to place atop my wedding cake one day!" It just doesn't happen.

Being trans and dating is lonely. Personally, I don't like guys so that narrows down dating choices substantially. Learning to be alone is crucial to finding balance and happiness in life. I'm thinking of having a small cake made for my 3rd "birthday" later this year with just me on top. A little Monica figurine. Surrounding that little me will be placards of the names of people who helped me the most the last couple years.

If no one else is going to dream of me, I will respect myself and my accomplishments on this hard road of transition...and make my own cake...and my own dreams...maybe one day someone will come along with me atop that cake. Until then....


The dream of being on top of the wedding cake
http://www.back40foundation.org/2017/01/04/the-dream-of-being-on-top-of-the-wedding-cake/


Thank you,
MJ

[Daniellekai]

I understand it's more about the loneliness of being trans in the dating scene, but wouldn't the most respectful trans piece for the most common MTF/FTM people just be the normal ones? Granted we still need some for genderless, gender fluid, bi gender folk...

Ah, that's the point, sorry, just clicked the link.

Googled around to see, there really isn't anything, plenty of same sex ones, the closest thing I could find was a lesbian pride one where one of the women was in a white tux


I feel like it's still a ways off the mark... Anyone want to start a business?

[Monica Jean]

I agree Danielle, there aren't any. There are same sex toppers indeed.

[Raell]

With this company, you can have yourself replicated with 3-D printers

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[FTMax]

Trans men and trans women are just men and women with transition histories. Male and female wedding toppers already exist. You wouldn't have a trans figurine on top of a cake. You'd have a female figurine.

I think the trouble with labels and ways of identifying is that when we are in the midst of something dealing with that particular label, often our whole life or a significant portion of our life becomes about that one thing. There is more to you than being trans.

Someone may not dream of falling in love and marrying a trans person, but I'm sure they dream about falling in love with and marrying someone who is kind, supportive, shares their values, and maybe has similar dreams. And for the right person, the fact that you are trans would not get in the way of the fact that you are otherwise right for each other.

[Devlyn]

Cake toppers are for peasants. BE the cake!

[KarynMcD]

While I get what you are trying to say, the analogy doesn't make any sense.
I just wanted to be the bride on the cake, not the "transgender bride."

[Janes Groove]

I think you would look awesome in a blue and pink wedding dress.



and the bridesmaids