What is your relationship to tears?

[blackbat]

I was pretty emotional before T, a sad movie could get the water works going. Now on T it hasn't changed, I can still cry pretty easily and I don't think it's a bad thing. I don't see crying as a sign of weakness or what have you and I never did. My father doesn't see it this way either, he's gone through a lot of hardships in his lifetime and he's shed more than his fair share of tears. Men are afraid to cry ultimately because of what society will think of them. I don't care of what anyone else thinks of me, this is something my father taught me. You can't depend on anyone except yourself, so you have to live your life how you want, you can't be worried about what everyone thinks of you, it's stupid and pointless. So cry if that's what you want, holding tears in isn't good for you anyway.

[November Fox]

Testosterone has changed the frequency in which I cry, but it definitely does not stop me from crying at all. Before, it was more emotional perhaps, now it´s just tears running down my cheeks.

Personally I don´t think crying is gendered, anymore. You can cry for so many different reasons - sadness, anger, frustration... I think perhaps the reasons to cry and the emotion that accompanies it are a changed a little bit when you go on T, but it doesn´t stop you from displaying emotion that way.

That being said, in my old life, I did used to feel weird when I saw men cry, but now I understand it´s just because I had learned that somehow men should always keep it together (why?).

[Kylo]

Just can't see the plusses of crying - all it ever did for me was give me a raging headache, constricted sinuses, and a feeling I was bothering people with it.

To me it's just a pointless bio-response to feeling bad or experiencing pain.

There's a lot of talk about how it makes you feel better, but I never did. Made me feel kind of ill, actually. Guess I'm just one of the weird ones. I missed out on something that might have been biologically designed to give relief? It never gave me relief.