failed coming out to dad.

[gwencook]

Hi all,
So I came out to my dad last night. Very surprisingly there was no shouting or threats or anything. But I don't think he fully grasped onto what I was trying to tell him. When I told him he thinks it's due to a lack of confidence from me and possibly depression. My advice for anyone who is planning on coming out is write down exactly how you feel and what you want to say.
My next stage for things with dad is to tell him everything from the time I was a child. No matter how painful he may find it.

[Wednesday]

I don't think you failed at all.

He's just suggesting your dysphoria may be rooted in your depression and lack of self-esteem. Which may or may not be (most likely not).

Its pretty good idea trying to solve issues like low self-esteem or depression as much as possible before or at least at the same time you transition.

Besides, parents usually need some time to grasp things and to figure out. Just give time to him and try to explain and make things easy to understand. Share your emotions ans feelings, and make easy for him to empathize with you.

[amberwaves]

Oh that's okay. My dad thinks it because of low testosterone.  I had a testicular torsion when I was 8 and almost lost a testicle.  Even when I told him my levels were well within normal male range when tested he didn't listen or care.  Family is fun...

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[gwencook]

And I've tried to tell him my confidence is great. I managed to leave an abusive household twice, and I managed to do presentations by myself brilliantly ay uni and that was even picked up on by lecturers. If I have depression I feel that would be linked to being in the wrong body for my life and trying to make every other person happy constantly. And he said he did understand how I feel which winds me up because it's like he's trying to put ideas into my head (he's extremely controlling)
And yep family is defo fun