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Why is he flirting with me??

Started by Wild Flower, May 23, 2017, 07:02:18 PM

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Wild Flower

Normally I take good complements from guys flirting or something, but this is one is a little bizarre. Reason why, he's not in my league. This guy is a solid hot 8.5 to 9/10. The only distractors are his career, his salary at his age, and he's paying a lot of child support. Total average straight guy.... I consider myself attractive but average at the same time. I still look like a guy. I'm not going to pretend people are hallucinating a 25 year old Marilyn Monroe at work in diamonds and pink silk gown.

I notice for the past few months, I did not talk to him because I have no reason too....He ALWAYS say hi to me when I am alone, now he just says hi to me like its normal, and always say bye to me last. Today, he wink and smile at me as I was looking at my phone. He's at least 1 foot taller, so that doesn't help make it feel more 'that what it was, I love tall men, just not him'. I didn't smile back, just made a  "wth?" face, because I don't think we're compatible, and he's mocking me or something. This guy is hot.... he's too hot. I'm real.

That's a huge flirting sign, sorry we don't talk in paragraphs yet, why are you blinking and smiling. I personally think he's bisexual, and he thinks I'm gay --- and he's self-absorbed to think 'everyone must think I'm goodlooking'. That doesn't work on me. My assumptions. Next time he winks and smile, I'm going to say, "I'm not gay, don't do that".
"Anyone who believes what a cat tells him deserves all he gets."
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Angélique LaCava

Like I said before, don't assume something you don't know for sure. That's how disappointments happens. Mocking isn't flirting. If they flirt they are very obvious to the point that they compliment you like your eyes or smile. Usually guys make moves without any thought and if they are into you you wouldn't have to question it. Stop assuming and just tell the guy your gay,bi, or trans whatever. Just tell him and say I think your really cute and want to know if your into me
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Transdude

So a hot dude is being nice to you. What's the problem with that? If you aren't into dudes just tell him that.
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Angélique LaCava

Quote from: Transdude on May 23, 2017, 07:17:24 PM
So a hot dude is being nice to you. What's the problem with that? If you aren't into dudes just tell him that.
wildflower is into guys. This isn't the first time. Wildflower always assumes guys like him/her just because they are nice. Wildflower still presents as a gay male. Sorry for the pronouns, but you called yourself gay so not sure how you consider yourself.
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Wild Flower

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on May 23, 2017, 07:43:12 PM
wildflower is into guys. This isn't the first time. Wildflower always assumes guys like him/her just because they are nice. Wildflower still presents as a gay male. Sorry for the pronouns, but you called yourself gay so not sure how you consider yourself.

It's okay, I was saying that in a response to that guy in a literal sense, from how he perceives me (which is a straight but not declared straight guy). I am transgender demiwoman (like Miley Cyrus; she thinks of herself as a woman and genderfluid at times). I never think I am a guy, but it's not bothering me in sense that my life is ruin. I live my life very fluid..... like I am okay being alive, and I am okay if I'm not. Nonchalant attitude. Whatever. No worries.

Not to get personal, but my "maleness" doesn't cause me misery or happiness, it's like just a part of me. I just social acceptance as a female.... but I won't do that until I have my birds ready. I don't need love either, I want it though. What I need is a good pillow, blanket, cabin in the woods.  And nice hair, soft skin, pretty dresses, music too, good wifi.
"Anyone who believes what a cat tells him deserves all he gets."
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Wednesday

Quote from: Wild Flower on May 23, 2017, 08:35:22 PM
What I need is a good pillow, blanket, cabin in the woods.  And nice hair, soft skin, pretty dresses, music too, good wifi.

Don't forget the fireplace!
"Witches were a bit like cats" - Terry Pratchett
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Cimara

All people need love sweetie. It is human nature to want to be loved,
Born 1989
Transitioned 2001
Began hrt 2001
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Jin

Just because he is hot, doesn't mean he is not genuinely nice. Sounds to me like he likes you because your are YOU.
I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam.
-- Popeye

A wise person can learn more from fools than a fool can learn from a wise person.
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RavenMoon

Some people don't think "straight" or "gay." They just see someone they are attracted to. I'm not into guys, but I've seen a few feminine looking guys I thought were cute. [emoji6]


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DawnOday

Quote from: Cimara on May 23, 2017, 09:23:44 PM
All people need love sweetie. It is human nature to want to be loved,

I don't necessarily agree. I have had people that loved me but I could not reciprocate because of guilt and shame and a deep secret. Perhaps not warranted but very real.
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RobynD

People develop relationships that are seemingly "mis-matched" all of the time. Think about the couples you know and i'm sure you will come up with at least one.

It is easy to think on the surface and I have to say that i never thought the guy i am dating now would be interested, partially because of his very very good looks. We have been together six months. When you sit down and examine relationships though you see they are about a lot more. From common likes and experiences to emotional compatibility. People always refrain that without the "chemistry" or physical attraction there can be no love, but that is only true to a very minimal sense.


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Aurorasky

Well, we don't know him so it's hard to say. Usually, winking can be a flirting sign but it can also convey conspiracy or something. Because you are still presenting as male, if he's straight, he might just think you're lonely and is nice because of that. It's not that uncommon for guys to do that to each other, I'm not sure though, could be diferente where you are. If he's gay or bi, he could be interested. That said, take things at face value if you don't wanna risk being disappointed. If you are interested back, and are not afraid of rejection, then flirt. However, you say you are not interested by him at all, yet you had all this work in creating a topic about him and why's flirting, so you are at least intrigued by him. Otherwise you wouldn't be wondering about whether he's flirting or not, am I right?

good luck.
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Nuuni

One, don't sell yourself short, you have it going on in more ways than you think.
Two, are you sure you don't think he's out of your league because you are into him?
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SonadoraXVX

#13
Hi Wildflower,

I think, I know what your saying, is that this the guy is kinda of creeping you out, like WTF is a 8.5 or higher type of dude flirting with me, when nobody else of that caliber does? Cognitive dissonance.  If your antenna is telling you something is wrong, more than likely something is? If I don't feel comfortable with someone, that I can't articulate(e.g. extremely rare, I got a graduate degree in psychology), I just don't go there. Relationships and friends are supposed to make you feel good, not spooked, questioning yourself or reality or making you feel bad.

People are people and the majority of people know what connecting like a decent human being is like, on people of their mental wavelength and knowing if their salutations are wanted or not. If he doesn't get the message, then, something is wrong with him and not you.

Your call...
To know thyself is to be blessed, but to know others is to prevent supreme headaches
Sun Tzu said it best, "To know thyself is half the battle won, but to know yourself and the enemy, is to win 100% of the battles".



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