Would you get rid of your penis even if you continued to represent as male?

[LaRell]

  I personally hate my penis and balls and want them gone so incredibly bad!  I think a lot of people want to lose them as a latter part of a total transition.  And I guess I can understand why insurance companies and things require you to live full time as a woman before you can get GCS.  But for me..........While I absolutely desire to be fully female, for now I would be extremely happy just to have my penis converted into a vagina even if I continued to look like a man on the outside.   

  As I've said in other posts, I am married to a woman who loves my penis and loves the sexual connection it gives us.  And I love that connection too, and it does feel good to have sex with her.  But the whole rest of the time when we are not having sex, I just despise my damn penis and want it gone so bad!!!  Even if that was the only part of my physical self that ever transitioned.  I of course really want to get on HRT as well, but would absolutely do things "backwards" and have the bottom surgery in a heart beat if it weren't for my wife's love of my unwanted member, and knowing how hard it would be for her to lose it, and if it was even possible to have the surgery without going through all of the therapists and HRT and everything.

  Am I weird in that way, or do a lot of you feel the same way?   And a question for those of you who still have your penises but have been on HRT for a fairly long time, do you still have the ability to get and maintain an erection?  I only ask because I really badly want to go through the steps to get prescribed HRT, but I really fear that while I still have my penis, that it would just be too hard on my wife and my marriage to lose that.

[AnneK]

I'm not on HRT, but have often thought about getting a penectomy and castration.

[AnonyMs]

I've been on hrt for years but still presenting male, and I've thought about having srs without socially transitioning. I figure why not? I can't see the order of things really matters, or is anyone's business apart from myself.

[Jennifer RachaelAnn]

I've been on HRT for a while now so I may be able to help here.

Yes HRT will affect your ability to  get, and keep an erection. Some more drastically than others. My doctor told me that HRT can also shrink your genitals.

Marriage is always a work in progress. I can virtually guarantee that your wife married you. She did not marry your penis. If transition would affect your marriage in such a negative way, then there's a chance that the marriage you're in right now, may not be the right one for you. I understand you love each other. I love my wife, but sometimes I feel like I hate her. It's going to happen regardless of what kind of relationship you're in. The best advice I can give you is to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your wife, and see where you both stand on the issue. Go from there.

As for having a penis in general, if it wasn't for the pain factor, I would have taken a knife a long time ago, and sliced everything off. When I was 3 or 4, I took nail clippers and one of my fathers disposable razors, and tried to cut it all off. THAT is weird. The way you personally feel is not. I would bet that many of the pre-op people here would agree with you. M2F or F2M.

[Cimara]

If I still presented as male I would be far too concerned with transitioning to worry about having or not having a penis. I intend to have SRS eventually but it has never been my primary concern. Almost no one sees what's between your legs. Everyone sees how you present yourself. For me my outward appearance has always been my number one priority.

To answer your second question, I have been on testosterone blockers and HRT since age 12. Yes, erections are still possible but the path to get there is quite different than it is for a man. Though I do enjoy looking at guys with hot bodies that does not arouse me sexually. Nor does porn of any kind or cybersex, sexting.  It takes a lot of kissing, foreplay and just plain physical closeness to get me aroused. From my experience with cis guys it is absurdly easy to get them aroused.  After a while on HRT that would no longer be the case.  So yes. It is still possible to have erections on HRT. But the path to getting aroused might change considerably for you.

[RavenMoon]

I might not get rid of mine at all. No one can see it (unless I show it to them) and I have no interest in men. It would be nice not to have to tuck though.
Currently I quite like my penis. lol it's quite nice as penises go, and we've had a lot of fun together.
For me all my dysphoria is centered on my face. I might even just get my face done and nothing else!


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[rose]

I hate my current genitalia so much I always hate it
It disgusting me I can't wait to have my surgery and finally be free


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[Devlyn]

I might not get rid of mine at all. No one can see it (unless I show it to them) and I have no interest in men. It would be nice not to have to tuck though.
Currently I quite like my penis. lol it's quite nice as penises go, and we've had a lot of fun together.
For me all my dysphoria is centered on my face. I might even just get my face done and nothing else!


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

  I'm quite attached to mine, too. I'm sure glad it can't talk! 

I'm happy with mine, keeping function is one of my concerns. I'm  prepared to lose it, but I hope to keep the ability to maintain an erection and ejaculate.

Hugs, Devlyn

[RavenMoon]

I'm happy with mine, keeping function is one of my concerns. I'm  prepared to lose it, but I hope to keep the ability to maintain an erection and ejaculate.

Hugs, Devlyn

Yeah, that's probably not going to be possible on hormones.

Part of me thinks I don't care. I got divorced in 2011, and I've been single ever since. If you asked me a year or two ago I'd say I'm happy to see it go! Especially the scrotum. It takes up too much space!

But lately I don't know. I'm taking it one step at a time. Get my facial hair removed and save up for FFS. Then I'll see how I feel. Maybe I'll do a Pete Burns and just change my face.

This would be so different if I was like 18...


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[cdhd2001]

Hrt 5 months, no "male" ejaculating. Still gets hard, but not involuntary. Orgasms changed considerably. More "female" as my spouse explains. Great for me. Male Orgasms were always painful during and hours afterwards.

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N910A using Tapatalk

[warlockmaker]

There are people in this forum that have actually done that and are conten.  To each their own and each one has their reasons. It was an option that my wife wanted me to do for the sake of appearances. I could not do it.

As for sex while on HRT, take cyalis or viagra. Many tgs look like a beautiful female with breasts and hips and choose to keep their penis. Its all ok, do what you need to need to allow yourself to be a contributing member of society.

[Lcleo]

To answer the title question: I don't casually pass as female, and I don't put any effort into passing because I don't really care, and I don't correct people when they misgender me. So in that sense I guess I represent as male. I'm still getting rid of my penis cause I need to (pretty much for the same reasons as you), it's happening real soon. So yes.

I've seen and heard of people who want to transition to change their body, without wanting to transition "socially". That's not weird. There isn't a path to follow as many doctors and some trans want you to believe. Transition consists of a whole bunch of things you can chose to do or not. It's up to you.

I wasn't in a relationship when I began my transition so I can't really give you an advice with regards to yours. If your wife knows that you're trans it might help.

HRT doesn't make it impossible to get/maintain an erection, though things work differently. From my own experience, it's a matter of whether you remain sexually active or not.
I could be wrong, but I think those who experience loss of erection and libido or atrophy are those who stop having any sexual activity during their transition. It's pretty common, cause we don't like our penises.
HRT is said to make your penis shrink but oddly enough I had the opposite experience, it keeps getting more and more difficult to hide when I wear tight clothes.
I've been on hormones and anti-androgens (sometimes at high dosage) for 1 year and 6 months, and I don't have any libido or erection problem. Ejaculations are nearly gone though.
But remember that the effects of HRT vary greatly from person to person, nobody can tell you what it will do to you and whether things will work the same way as they did for me.

My advice would be to start going through the steps to access HRT and SRS. I don't know how much time it takes where you are, but here getting access to HRT can take months, and getting access to SRS never takes less than 3 years.
So I suggest you start doing all the paperwork and medical stuff that it takes, just so it's already done if you decide to go through medical transition.

[JillianC]

Yes, I want my dangly bits gone as they are the largest cause of my dysphoria.  If I could have them gone, I'd be a happy human. 

I didn't really care about fully presenting as a female at first as I had no interest in breasts, hair, or makeup.  I would keep everything else if I could only have a vag.  In my mind, I pictured an androgynous FTM.  However, having been on HRT for 3 months I have developed some breast buds and I am enjoying them more than I thought.  Now, I wish they would grow bigger...lol.