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first time out and about, will I pass?

Started by Taylorgirl, May 27, 2017, 03:14:21 PM

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LizK

I can only concur with the wisdom of these other ladies...Having a pretty face helps but only to a certain extent, passing is about so many things and depending what you actually mean by passing...blending in with the cis women around you? or Being able to present yourself to a GP and them not realise you were assigned the opposite gender at birth.

It does not matter how feminie/masculine you look and behave if you do not have any belief in yourself. Until you find some of that belief you will not pass.
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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Taylorgirl

I am not sure how I would be perceived by others, all I see when I look in the mirror is me, it would be nice to get a second opinion before taking the leap even if this means taking some constructive criticism , think I need to make contact with some like minded individuals locally and get some much needed support.

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AnneK

Back when I was into cross dressing, I thought the same thing, I was just a guy in drag.  However, there were a couple of occasions when someone mentioned they thought I actually was a woman.  However, there have been many times over the years when I've looked at a cis woman and thought she was a man.  So, there's no hard line in there.
I'm a 65 year old male who has been thinking about SRS for many years.  I also was a  full cross dresser for a few years.  I wear a bra, pantyhose and nail polish daily because it just feels right.

Started HRT April 17, 2019.
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Megan.

I like most thought alot about passing early in my transition. My view now is that it's a 'nice to have'. I dress and present in a manner that should be quite obvious to others how I would like to be gendered, I expect to be treated politely and respectfully,  like any other person.

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tgirlamg

Quote from: meganjames2 on May 29, 2017, 06:30:20 AM
I dress and present in a manner that should be quite obvious to others how I would like to be gendered, I expect to be treated politely and respectfully,  like any other person.

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In the big picture of how transgender people should be regarded in society... I think what Megan said here is at the heart of the matter

Onward we go!!!

Ashley :)
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

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Anne Blake

I also agree with Megan. When I first started going out I felt a need to "Pass" but did not have the skills or poise to accomplish it. It took me a while to become comfortable but I found that if I presented acceptably (tried to blend in with looks and mannerisms) and respected those I interacted with I was treated with respect whether I was read or not. Getting to that point was when I began to really feel comfortable being me anyplace. Good luck! - Anne
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LizK

Quote from: Anne Blake on May 29, 2017, 05:25:49 PM
.....Getting to that point was when I began to really feel comfortable being me anyplace. Good luck! - Anne

I think you are spot on Anne, pass not pass it becomes less relevant as you progress. As Megan said it if happens its nice but I will settle for simple respect...there is no way, anyone, upon seeing me, cannot tell I am presenting myself to the world as a woman. The rest is just ignorance 
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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