IT IS TRUE - I AM TRANSGENDER

[Marcieelizabeth]

I have always thought I wanted to just wear women's clothes, and I thought the rest was well, a fetish? But I knew better always and in the last few weeks I am trying to follow up on a lifetime of hiding it, THANKS to this site and well a natural decline in T levels that had my breasts primed to go off and gave me the beginnings of man boobs.

Then I read someone's post here somewhere who said they thought they were transgendered and went to a therapist to find out they were not transgendered but the therapist started that discovery with these questions:

Q. What Underwear are you wearing?
my answer - women's panties
his: boxers, hanes

Q. Do you want to wear women's clothes?
my answer: whenever I can
his: no

Q. Do you want breasts?
my answer: desperately
his: no

The therapist told him they did not know anyone who was transgender who did not want some of those things so he was not transgender.

SO OBVIOUSLY I AM!  I am Transgender - this is my public declaration - and I hope to follow through and be transsexual as well! Thank God!! AND HELP!!!

[Ashley_wolf]

First thing first go talk to a therapist nobody can make medical statement for u here

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[DawnOday]

There is no instruction, however there is Susan's. Use our wiki and links to help educate yourself. Knowledge is a confidence builder and I have learned that confidence is one of the traits that counteract prejudice and how you handle it.

[Marcieelizabeth]

Thanks Ashley Wolf - I know that for sure - it was just reinforcing to read that have the answers that lead to transgender!  A therapist is an issue I need to get to quickly!  Thanks

[KathyLauren]

I agree that a therapist is the next step, to help you figure out what you want and how to get there.

But I just wanted to take a moment to celebrate with you.  It sounds like you have come to some kind of understanding about who you are.  Understanding yourself better is always a reason to celebrate.  While you may have some fears about how the future will work out, I bet you are feeling a bit lighter today.  So, yay for you, Marcieelizabeth!

[Laurie]

I have always thought I wanted to just wear women's clothes, and I thought the rest was well, a fetish? But I knew better always and in the last few weeks I am trying to follow up on a lifetime of hiding it,

Then I read someone's post here somewhere who said they thought they were transgendered and went to a therapist to find out

H iMarcieelizabeth,

   I used to be one of those life long crossdress and I used to think crossdressing was all it was and that it was enough. Six months ago I quit lying to myself and admitted to myself that it wasn't enough, That I always have wanted more. And decided to do something about it by admitting I was really trans gender and started HRT under a doctor's care and I am also seeing a gender therapist regularly.
   I has been the best thing I could do for myself as I am finally happy with who I am. By that I do not mean it has been easy. Oh not at all, it's scary, it is hard coming out to family and friends, and it isn't easy being myself in public. But each of those things can be handles and gotten used to so that it becomes the normal and dressing male becomes the crossdressing. It takes work, but it can be done.
   My doctors and therapist are supportive, most of the friends I've come out to are supportive. And then there are the denizens of Susan's Place without whom I couldn't be doing everything I am now doing to become me.

  I wish you a great transition if that is what you are going to be doing. I hope you like it here as good as I do. And I hope your stick around to help others once you get comfortable.

  Hugs.
     Laurie

[Marcieelizabeth]

Thanks Kathie -

I am celebrating because i have hid from myself for so long!  Thank you sweet thing for celebrating with me! 

And thank you Laurie for telling me your story in part - it sounds very familiar but the cross dressing for me was in secret too.  But I need to get this out before I cannot!  Glad to be here!!  Glad to admit I am a woman, and always have been!

Thanks and Hugs to all you girls!!

Marcie

[tgirlamg]

Welcome aboard Marcie!!!!

[Sarah_P]

Hi  Marcie! I also spent years crossdressing in private, telling myself that's all it was. Like Laurie, I realized it wasn't enough. It still took me quite a while to get over my fears & finally decide to take the plunge (that was a little over a month ago). So far, all the friends & family I've talked to have been super supportive. I also feel happier than I've felt in a long time!  Not having to hide who I am from the people I love has really changed my life for the better.
Definitely find a good gender therapist. I just started seeing mine, & she's been great! Also, if/when you feel comfortable with it, I recommend visiting a local LGBT community center, if there's one near you. They often have helpful information & sometimes transgender support groups.

Congratulations & good luck!!!   

[Marcieelizabeth]

tgirlamc - THANK YOU for the welcome!  I need friends here!  Love and hugs!

[Marcieelizabeth]

Sarah -

I hope and pray I can move forward soon.  It is the hardest thing I have ever even considered in my many years!  The thing is I fear loss!  of spouse, kids, community at my place of worship, and so much more.  I have heard some family (not close) say some pretty hateful things in regards to Cate, so I am not expecting a totally easy transition and I am not ready for that yet!  Thanks for sharing your story it helps to know I am not alone and have friends here! Love and hugs Marcie

[Janes Groove]

Wonderful!.  I love the all caps.  It really is something to be proud of.

[Nora Kayte]

Yup. Cross dressing for years. Thinking it was a fetish. Then something clicked and I had to find out why I was doing what I was doing. And that research and an hour holding the phone trying to get myself to call for my first therapist meeting and here we are. DAMN PROUD OF WHO I AM. Of course we don't go blaring it to everybody but if I was ever asked it who'd be big fat YES!!!


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[Nora Kayte]

Sarah -

I hope and pray I can move forward soon.  It is the hardest thing I have ever even considered in my many years!  The thing is I fear loss!  of spouse, kids, community at my place of worship, and so much more.  I have heard some family (not close) say some pretty hateful things in regards to Cate, so I am not expecting a totally easy transition and I am not ready for that yet!  Thanks for sharing your story it helps to know I am not alone and have friends here! Love and hugs Marcie

Also you are never alone here. Feel free to IM me if you need anything. I have some experience. Lol
And I am sure anyone here would welcome an IM from you!!


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[Sarah77]

And it can sometimes need different outcomes.

I am so obviously transgender. But transition would explode a bomb in my life.
Would it cure my depression? Could I really live with myself to see my wife broken?

A trans life is very, very, very hard

[Marcieelizabeth]

Norma Lynne I may take you up on the offer - Thanks Dear!   

Sarah - exactly right - full transition may be not only the toughest thing I ever do, but maybe too hard!  But I at least now know who I really am!  Love and Hugs to you both! 

Marcie