Do we trans folk take ourselves too seriously

[HappyMoni]

Hi,
   I know this is a support website and people come here in desperation many times. I have been there myself. We have so many serious posts which is great, but I have sometimes felt like people might be annoyed if I post something silly. This kind of made my little brain make room for this question. Do we trans people take ourselves too serious sometimes? Is there a place on here for being silly. I know with my humor, I try to fine tune it so no one laughs. (Its quieter that way.) I just believe in the therapeutic power of smiling and laughing.
Moni

[Devlyn]

Seriously??!!! You're just going to invalidate all of my fears and concerns just like that?

WAAAAHHHHAHHHHHH!

<running off sobbing>

[HappyMoni]

Yes! Distracted another administrator, quick everybody, we can party.  Yeaaaaaaa!

[Anne Blake]

An interesting question Monica,

If I look at the financial cost, social and physical risks each of us willingly embraces to experience life as our true selves, well it can't  get any more serious than that, can it?

On the other hand, that opportunity to experience the "me" that has been hidden for so long that lets us laugh and embrace all the silly whimsy and magic that life can know throws seriousness out the window. You yourself are such a fine example of this by the way; thank you for that!

Anne

[SailorMars1994]

How can I not take myself too seriously? I am hot, sexy, smart, strong willed, quick witted, a fountain of estrogen and yar.. i am just pefect. And no, I really am not a narcisist

Love ya Moni

[TransAm]

I'm in total agreement. Everywhere else, I'm a cocktail of sarcasm/profanity/dark humor/panty ruffling/profanity/profanity/really dark humor/long walks on the beach.
The personality reaaaalllllyyyyy kicks down a couple hundred notches on these forums. I know why (I get that there are kids and whatnot), but I do often have to go back and heavily edit before I hit post.

These forums are a fasting period for the infinitely funnier and more terrible me.

So yeah, I'm not sure if people are generally more serious or they're just heavily censoring themselves. Perhaps a bit of both?

[SadieBlake]

Ehh, I run more serious most of the time, probably more so here where I'm making decisions with all too real consequences and (presently) dealing with recovery and significant post op pain.

I try to lighten up, even in the heavy ->-bleeped-<-, things go better if you can choose to surf it rather than wade through it :-).

[AlyssaJ]

I definitely agree with this.  Some of it is just the nature of internet forums.  Sarcasm and innuendo are not easily executed/understood in written media like this so I think many of us (myself included) avoid it and the humor that would go with. That said, this is why I try to post both positive and negative experiences at least.  I think celebrating the good stuff (even if it's kind of dorky like getting excited over our name appearing on a website) along with the challenging questions definitely helps lighten the mood.

As it comes to society overall, I think our trans community can stand to lighten up a bit too.  I know so many who are so focused on fighting for justice and equality that we often miss the ability to just enjoy being who we are.  PrideFest for me this year was a great reminder of how to just chill out, enjoy life being true to myself and not worry so much about what others are thinking of me.

[paula lesley]

I thought it was just an " American " thing ?




Paula, X.

[LizK]

Moni, Moni, Moni (sorry been watching an ABBA special)

I think you are right but it is such a delicate line to walk...I mean having a "Special Friend" saying they will (play menacing music)"Hunt you down" could easily be taken the wrong way...at least in polite circles anyway.  I think humour is alive and well on this board in all sorts of ways...Sadly Plenty of us seem to use humour to cover our pain.

[Denni]

Seriously?, are you serious? Now let's see, Moni, Laurie, Devlyn Marie and others are going to go hunting for each other armed with orreo, and chocolate chip cookies. Now everyone knows that to do a proper job of not only hunting one down and then finishing the job that you need brownies! Much more substance to them and when allowed to harden, oh my they can really leave a mark, there is only one problem with them, you need to hide them to get to that correct hardness factor, me I cannot keep my grubby hands off of them to get to that point. So everyone is safe for the moment, now where is that second pan hid?

[tgirlamg]

Dear Moni...

Up until now, I had always considered you a valuable member of the forum.. But, I am afraid things have obviously taken quite a bad turn!!!!... I have reported this thread to the moderators as a clear violation of Terms of Service sect 42.3 A section 12... Paragraph 17 (advocating postings of a humorous or trite nature)

It is my sincere hope we can put this unfortunate incident behind us after a time of healing and return soon to speaking about things more appropriate and in keeping with the true intent of the forum!!!

Now can we please return to postings about matters of great importance such as ..." Why I will never pass because my pupils are 2.795436523" apart versus the cis woman' average of 2.79425412"...

Hoping you can find help for whatever has come over you!!! !!!!!!!

Ashley

[Charlie Nicki]

I think is the nature of this forum. Between not wanting to break rules and not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings (which is pretty easy here since it's one tough road), we censor ourselves a lot. I tend to be more fiery and sarcastic but I definitely tone it down here.

[Laurie]

 Oh Gheeeezee Roni  sorry just a typo I meant Mo - ni and you know it.

Can't you do anything without getting me dragged into it? (and we both know it's all about me) You start up this subject soliciting reassurance that you are capable of humor (and we both know you are serious about wanting to be funny) and you get not only yourself placated by such kind folks here that would never hurt anyone's feelers, but you manage to get Devlyn and I raked over the coals in doing so.
  Everyone here knows you try (operative word there) to bring some humor to these forums by attacking me personally but I for one am not buying it. It's a cover up for your abject shyness and insecurities. It's all a sham. If it wasn't for me you would be reduced to tears thinking all those morose or mundane thoughts you are prone to. I personally have allowed you to become distracted from real life issues in order to think up obnoxious things to say to me.  And poor Devlyn... I haven't figured out how she manages to get out of that padded room and onto a computer everyday... she's crafty that one is. She seldom if ever has anything serious to say. I think your influence has finally pushed her over the edge and there can be no return. Yes, yes there are many other nuts out there that are able to give sage advice (at times) and heart felt support to those in need. Somehow they manage a semblance of control while maintaining a sense of humor. Oh wait a minute, I just realized they are all foreigners... it's possible they could also be warped in their thoughts and I mistook it for humor. (add to list of serious things to ponder when time permits)
    Now where was i? I'm serious! what was this thread about again? oh never mind it was started by Monica, it can't be important...

Hugs,
   Laurie

[Rayna]

I never use humor on here.

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[HappyMoni]

I thought it was just an " American " thing ?




Paula, X.

Oh my gosh, there is so much material posted here but I had to stop at this post, or should I say international incident. Americans are humorless , my dear Paula? Monty Python was funny and I will give you Benny Hill, but that was a long time ago. Don't you watch the news. Don't you know we are about to "Make America Silly, Again" You are dealing with an arrogant American in me my friend. No one will look sillier, more ridiculous or baffoonish than this American. Thank you very much.
Moni
How's that for violating TOS regulations and tiptoeing around politics (Hoping no one goes there.)

Oh, one other question for this thread. DOES anyone really get annoyed by the humor on this site? Randy?
Moni

[tgirlamg]

How's that for violating TOS regulations and tiptoeing around politics (Hoping no one goes there.)

Moni,

I guess I would have to admit that your tiptoe dancing skills are indeed first rate...perhaps this will in some way help to offset your wanton disregard for the rules around here!!!

A !!!!

[KathyLauren]

I like humour, and I am not offended or bothered when I see it on this site.  We have so much serious stuff going on in our lives that we need some levity to lighten things up.

On the other hand, I use humour cautiously online, and especially here.  On the Web, there are no visual body language clues to indicate how a message is being received.  It is too easy to become like that awkward guy we have all met who doesn't know when to quit because he is oblivious to the reactions of those around him.  Add to that members who may be experiencing pain in their lives and therefore might be in fragile states of mind. 

So, on the whole, I use humour less here than I do in real life.

[HappyMoni]

'Wanton disregard' is that as bad as burying 13 bodies in the cellar like Kathy does?
Moni

[ghostbees]

I was going to say something serious but I can't keep a straight face reading these comments.
Curse you all!!
-
Nathan


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