Changing Sexual Areas

[Peacebone]

So like many guys, my junk has changed on T... My *clit*/wee man has gotten bigger and more sensitive (it was very insensitive before) and I'm trying to figure out how to handle it...

So I wasn't sensitive down there before T and had to work it for a while with a vibrator. I have gotten myself off a couple of times since starting T with my hands, but I'm not a great fan of touching myself and I tend to stick with a vibe still and sometimes an internal vibrator/love egg...

Anyway... I'm seven months on T and I feel way more sexual (especially if I pack), but I'm struggling to navigate the changes to my body and changing sexuality... I feel more visual and am interested in penetration and I find it harder to fantasise about things when I masturbate. I'm not sure if some of this is due to exhaustion from general life though.

Anyway, I want to start dating and I don't want sex issues to be a problem. I was wondering if people found this when they started on T and had any tips/experiences to share.

[AnxietyDisord3r]

I had to relearn how to masturbate because the old way didn't work any more. I also found that the base of my clit/penis wanted stimulation which means penetrating myself with a dildo. That would have made me really dysphoric before but on T it doesn't bother me. I can stimulate the tip gently by pulling the clitoral hood/foreskin back with my fingers rapidly (there are videos of guys like us doing this online, btw). I still fantasize but the fantasies changed a bit. Everything is much more focused on my dick than previously. I found myself using porn as a visual aid for the first time in, oh, 15 years or more. It was het porn, and it helped. I couldn't look at het porn before because it made me feel dysphoric.

I don't think my bottom dysphoria is worse now but I do think about it a bit more because I was always obsessed with penetration but now I'm more obsessed? I guess?

[FTMax]

If your anatomy has changed a lot, you probably just have to relearn what works for you. I don't want to say most males *need* something visual, but I think the vast majority prefer it. So that may just be a new mental change you have to get used to.

And there's nothing wrong with experimenting. A lot of people experience a sexuality shift on hormones, so you definitely wouldn't be the only person in history that that has happened to. As long as you're safe about it, it shouldn't be a big deal.

[Ryuichi13]

I am so glad to find out that my becoming more visual than before and wanting to penetrate is (seemingly) typical of us guys!  The idea of my wanting to be penetrated has definitly lessened.

I suppose my question is, "does wanting to penetrate lessen the longer you're on T, or is it more or less a permenant part of being male?"

Ryuichi

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[Kylo]

I suppose my question is, "does wanting to penetrate lessen the longer you're on T, or is it more or less a permenant part of being male?"

Maybe someone here who's been on T for a long time can explain that one, but in my case I've always been 100% geared toward it (almost never enjoyed the opposite), being on T only seems to have reinforced it and made it a whole lot easier to deal with mentally.

[CursedFireDean]

The "desire to penetrate" so to speak has fluctuated a lot for me but I definitely feel it more after starting T. I was a very very low libido person before T though. I have gotten two different toys for that, the goodhead helping head (called the bro sleeve on trans sites) and I've got the Buck Angel Buck Off. I recommend starting with the bro sleeve for two reasons. First reason: $7 vs $30 at my local sex store. See if the urge is even satisfied by this type of toy Second reason: the Buck Off is a little particular. My boy is on the smaller side for a post-T trans guy and I have to work for a while before the buck off is really pleasurable because until I'm pretty hard, I'm just not big enough. Also the hole is BIG, trust me I'm not as big as that hole, the reason it's finiky is because you have to figure out how to work it for your anatomy. I just last night discovered how I can hold it as if I'm jacking off a real dick. The bro sleeve on the other hand I find works even when I'm cold and tiny (not tiny for long of course.) There's also the sexy pill (supposedly blue is best for trans guys) but I haven't gotten my hands on that yet, and I'm sure some other small penetrable toys as well. I find those very satisfying for that particular desire. 

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[Ryuichi13]

I have the Blue Valentine Love Pill, and unless I'm doing something wrong, its just not working for me.  I'm 7 months on T, and I have definite dick growth, so in theory it should work.  Maybe my expectations were too high.  Idunno. 

Ryuichi

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[kings joker]

I too am WAY more sensitive down there and had to relearn how to get myself off. I was never a big fan of touching myself and preferred penetration because it was almost more removed then actually touching my little man. I got the buck angle hoping I'd get big enough to properly jerk myself off but I'm not yet. In the mean time I've found that having a layer of squishy silicone in between me and my man meat has allowed me to move past my dysphoria some.
Some days I'm feeling penetration more but lately I have really had no "desire" to do it, so I use the buck off instead.

Another toy I really like is the We-Vibe. Its an internal and external vibe with several setting. I find the design is just gender neutral enough that it doesn't really feel like traditional penetration or traditional clit stimulation. Especially on tired or lazy days this is what I'll choose when I just don't want to put a lot of effort into getting off.

[princeof_parties]

I didn't really masturbate pre-T, but now I am a lot more sexual. Oddly enough I've felt more 'the desire to penetrate' but also the desire to be penetrated, almost equally. I never felt the second one before starting T, in fact the idea would have made me really disphoric.

My clit is also way too sensitive for most things, but I like to wear my packer while using a vibrator at the same time--it lessens the direct pressure on my clit and kind of spreads out the feeling of the vibration.

[Ryuichi13]

I too am WAY more sensitive down there and had to relearn how to get myself off. I was never a big fan of touching myself and preferred penetration because it was almost more removed then actually touching my little man. I got the buck angle hoping I'd get big enough to properly jerk myself off but I'm not yet. In the mean time I've found that having a layer of squishy silicone in between me and my man meat has allowed me to move past my dysphoria some.
Some days I'm feeling penetration more but lately I have really had no "desire" to do it, so I use the buck off instead.

Another toy I really like is the We-Vibe. Its an internal and external vibe with several setting. I find the design is just gender neutral enough that it doesn't really feel like traditional penetration or traditional clit stimulation. Especially on tired or lazy days this is what I'll choose when I just don't want to put a lot of effort into getting off.

FYI:
Did you hear about this?

http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2017/03/14/520123490/vibrator-maker-to-pay-millions-over-claims-it-secretly-tracked-use

Personally, I don't care is'f someone wants to know how often I masturbate [emoji23] , but not everyone feels that way.

Ryuichi

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[kings joker]

FYI:
Did you hear about this?

http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2017/03/14/520123490/vibrator-maker-to-pay-millions-over-claims-it-secretly-tracked-use

Personally, I don't care is'f someone wants to know how often I masturbate [emoji23] , but not everyone feels that way.

Ryuichi

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I did see that and was a little surprised. I however don't use the app because honestly the bluetooth sucked.