I think I am trans

[primeval15429]

I think I might be genderfluid actually because these feelings do come in waves sometimes I feel like my body needs to be changee entirely and sometimes I just think I need to change it enough to remove the obvious signs of maleness, for example I dont always think my hips need to be wider but I always think having lots of body hair is gross and having muscles is gross

[Kendra]

I think genderfluid is an acknowledgement we are not digital machinery.

[primeval15429]

Explain?

[Elis]

I think I might be genderfluid actually because these feelings do come in waves sometimes I feel like my body needs to be changee entirely and sometimes I just think I need to change it enough to remove the obvious signs of maleness, for example I dont always think my hips need to be wider but I always think having lots of body hair is gross and having muscles is gross

Something to consider is that you may be binary but simply unsure what parts of your body you want to change to feel comfortable and what parts you want to keep the same or unsure what kind of female body you want; which is what a lot of binary trans people experience.

Not saying being genderfluid isn't a legitimate gender identity; just be prepared and not be afraid if you change your mind. It's normal.

[primeval15429]

I feel doubts alot, but when I do I just think "if I was  a boy I wouldnt be in this mess", is it normal to feel confused and doubtful?


And thankyou all you people have all been so much help 😊 especially since I am a very indecisive human being thankyou so much all of you

[KathyLauren]

is it normal to feel confused and doubtful?

Totally!!  There isn't one of us who hasn't experienced all kinds of doubt and confusion at one time or another, or even continuously.  Yep, totally normal. 

[primeval15429]

Actually I looked at my hip to waist ratio and my hips are alot closer to female hips anyway because the ideal female hip to waist ratio is 0.7 and the ideal male hip to waist ratio is 0.9 and mine is 0.77 so maybe I dont always think I need to change my hips because they are pretty correct already

[primeval15429]

I am panicing right now because I moved my fat around to make a male waist to hip ratio by pushing more fat into my waist and I thought it looked normal does that mean I am not trans after all? I am very scared now because I really dont want to go bwck to being a boy

[Elis]

I am panicing right now because I moved my fat around to make a male waist to hip ratio by pushing more fat into my waist and I thought it looked normal does that mean I am not trans after all? I am very scared now because I really dont want to go bwck to being a boy

Of course not. Feeling comfortable as a girl but uncomfortable as a boy is what truly matters. You might be a trans girl that just prefers a more boyish figire

[primeval15429]

Thankyou, I feel alot better now

[Devlyn]

There's a lot more to life than just boys and girls. I'm comfortably living in a mixed gender state of mind. Just one helpful tip: Don't become a "measurer". Everyone comes in a different wrapper. Accept who you ARE, not the box you fit into. 

Hugs, Devlyn

[primeval15429]

I really do want to be a girl, I just feel that I have to analize it from every angle to make sure I am making the correct decision

Also what is a "measurer"

[Devlyn]

That's a Devlynism for the person who measures their shoulders, measures their finger-to-finger digit ratio, measures their wrists, measures their head, measures their hip/shoulder ratio, distance between eyes, etc. 

Hugs, Devlyn

[primeval15429]

Well that is what I was doing and that is where almost all my fears come from, so I guess ill stop

[Devlyn]

Another measurer on the path to recovery...my work here is done! 

[Artesia]

I really do want to be a girl, I just feel that I have to analize it from every angle to make sure I am making the correct decision

Also what is a "measurer"

Analyzing everything is a good way to stop yourself from ever doing anything.  I did that for years, for things other than my gender, and I haven't done anything with my life because of the information checking and rechecking, and checking other sources, there is always another place to look for information, good, bad and otherwise.  It can become paralyzing.  The one thing I did with the fewest checks was begin my transition, and I've been much happier since, and even didn't worry about my trip to Colorado so much, and had a great time there.  Sometimes, you just have to actually experience things, and I am sad that it took me decades to figure it out.

[Kendra]

I think genderfluid is an acknowledgement we are not digital machinery.

Explain?

Gender expression doesn't have to remain the same over time and doesn't have to meet an exact definition (binary).  Discovering the freedom to move around the spectrum lowered my stress level.  In my earlier past I assumed we don't get to change or adjust - and then I realized it's quite beautiful when a person takes charge of this part of themselves and can express themselves. 

[primeval15429]

Someone said that I could pass as a girl already if I wanted and I felt a little aroused for a second is that normal?

[MeTony]

Someone said that I could pass as a girl already if I wanted and I felt a little aroused for a second is that normal?

When I pass as a guy, I get a tingeling happy feeling in my chest.

I've known I am a boy since I started to be self consious. Around age 3 I guess. I refused to wear girls cloths.

But everyone's path is different.

I say crossdress and explore. If it makes you happy, it is right. It does not mean you are transgender if you feel happy in women's clothing. It means you feel happy in women's clothing. I don't know if crossdressing is enough to make you happy or if you later on feel a strong dysphoria and want to change your body to a female body. Only time will tell.

[primeval15429]

Im 19 years old do you think my body is going to get any more masculine? Because if not I might be able to make myself look like a girl now without hormones if I try