Fearing surgery

[tgirlamg]

LOL that is one of the things I was wondering about does it still feel like your old anatomy is in place and what happens if you have a itch does your brain like tell you it is on you penis head but it is not there anymore?

G' Morning Amore!!!

I never had a feeling that the old anatomy was actually there other than that feeling for a couple weeks that it was tucked tightly and sewn up under a skin flap..

During healing as feeling is coming back and nerves wake back up from the trauma, you will have a lot of strange little itches and small electric shock sensations... For instance you might suddenly have an intense little itch that you associate with an exact spot you know to be the bottom of your scrotum ...but find it is now up inside your vagina and hard to directly scratch!!! ( I recommend patting the area ) Anyway... It is a healing adventure!!!!... It takes you far outside your normal routine so enjoy all that comes with the experience.... Most of all, the feeling of affirmation for conquering your fear and taking a bold step towards making your life exactly what you want it to be!!!!


All will be well!!!


Ashley

[SadieBlake]

From the very first dilation I could feel the dilator pass the length of the skin that used to be outside. It was strangest and most sensitive at the full depth, formerly frenulum.

I actually feel it less now because it's no longer prickly/pain and simply rich sensation.

The clitoris, remains simply strange. It's far too sensitive to be pleasurable and surely still does feel like a the glans it once was but almost feels disembodied. However when I stroke nearby, the sensation is really pleasurable pressure and not very much localized.

Something amusing yesterday, I was sitting to pee and unusually had my focus on something other than my neovagina and caught myself reaching to shake droplets off of something of course no longer there. But that was habit, not sensation. Amusing and in retrospect not surprising -- I still sometimes misname myself also.

At 9 weeks, the most common sensation is still the twinges of nerves reconnecting. It's all good, the most intense sensation has been discovering my new sexuality.

[Amoré]

From the very first dilation I could feel the dilator pass the length of the skin that used to be outside. It was strangest and most sensitive at the full depth, formerly frenulum.

I actually feel it less now because it's no longer prickly/pain and simply rich sensation.

The clitoris, remains simply strange. It's far too sensitive to be pleasurable and surely still does feel like a the glans it once was but almost feels disembodied. However when I stroke nearby, the sensation is really pleasurable pressure and not very much localized.

Something amusing yesterday, I was sitting to pee and unusually had my focus on something other than my neovagina and caught myself reaching to shake droplets off of something of course no longer there. But that was habit, not sensation. Amusing and in retrospect not surprising -- I still sometimes misname myself also.

At 9 weeks, the most common sensation is still the twinges of nerves reconnecting. It's all good, the most intense sensation has been discovering my new sexuality.

How was sitting down and things does it hurt or put pressure in that region?

[SadieBlake]

Sitting on anything like a flat or even cushioned surface was pretty intolerable for me over the first 6 weeks and I had to intersperse sitting - even on the donut ring - with getting myself flat, more than a couple of hours incurred swelling and attendant pain.

At around 6 weeks I stopped needing the donut but sitting was still not comfortable and I'm still keeping a folded notebook to make sitting more comfortable -- I put that under one butt cheek. My labia aren't small and just still stand a bit proud, also I have an area that's being slow to finish healing.

So I can sit now but I'm not, for instance wanting to slide in and out of a seat. I expect the next couple of weeks will see improvements.

[Amoré]

Sitting on anything like a flat or even cushioned surface was pretty intolerable for me over the first 6 weeks and I had to intersperse sitting - even on the donut ring - with getting myself flat, more than a couple of hours incurred swelling and attendant pain.

At around 6 weeks I stopped needing the donut but sitting was still not comfortable and I'm still keeping a folded notebook to make sitting more comfortable -- I put that under one butt cheek. My labia aren't small and just still stand a bit proud, also I have an area that's being slow to finish healing.

So I can sit now but I'm not, for instance wanting to slide in and out of a seat. I expect the next couple of weeks will see improvements.

Thank you so when would you say is a good time to return to work as I am a developer and it takes a lot of sitting.

[SadieBlake]

I think it's really hard to know prior to surgery. There are plenty of women who report being fine getting back to work in 4 weeks however that's definitely the exception. I did my first day back at 5 weeks post op and until 8 weeks post op I needed to lay down at every opportunity to keep the pain in my labia down, fortunately that works well with the flow of blowing glass most days.

Were I you, I'd prepare my employer for the possibility of 2 months, or maybe arrange to spend a majority of your first few weeks back working from home.

And btw that's a terrible option for me as I'm self employed and don't get any paid time off or ahort term disability pay. All of the time not working and the first couple of weeks back that really haven't been productive are loss of income.

But again, refer to my good, bad, ugly thread. Throughout my first 6-7 weeks post op my immune system was really going nuts working to let go of the dead skin in the neovagina. Once that was shed everything improved hugely.

[Amoré]

I think it's really hard to know prior to surgery. There are plenty of women who report being fine getting back to work in 4 weeks however that's definitely the exception. I did my first day back at 5 weeks post op and until 8 weeks post op I needed to lay down at every opportunity to keep the pain in my labia down, fortunately that works well with the flow of blowing glass most days.

Were I you, I'd prepare my employer for the possibility of 2 months, or maybe arrange to spend a majority of your first few weeks back working from home.

And btw that's a terrible option for me as I'm self employed and don't get any paid time off or ahort term disability pay. All of the time not working and the first couple of weeks back that really haven't been productive are loss of income.

But again, refer to my good, bad, ugly thread. Throughout my first 6-7 weeks post op my immune system was really going nuts working to let go of the dead skin in the neovagina. Once that was shed everything improved hugely.

Luckily I am also self employed now. But that is the trouble no work no income. It can set a project back two months if I can't work on it. I can take my laptop with to bed and lay down with it but I am getting a brick of a laptop now because I need a powerful machine.

[AnonyMs]

I've heard of women doing IT work from their hospital beds in Thailand.

[SadieBlake]

Bed or a recliner may be very helpful then