would you live your life as your birth gender , just doing HRT

[Michelle_P]

Wow I never heard that from a transgender woman.

I've heard this from several folks in my transgender social support group.  They find that just the opportunity to express their feminine aspects of an evening every week or two at one of our social events is enough to ease their discomfort, and let them continue in the male role much of the time.

My own experience was rather different, as was that for others in the group. This has convinced me that gender dysphoria is something else that is on a continuum, similar to identity and orientation.   That's a fancy way of saying that some people are more bothered than others by a mismatch between their assigned gender and gender identity.  I don't have enough information to characterize the nature of that mismatch.

[grrl1nside]

I can appreciate Erika's comment that she knows she is not cis male. When I was young, I knew I wasn't a boy but I wouldn't say I knew I was a girl. I knew that I wasn't a boy strongly enough to get in the girls line repeatedly until negative social responses were such that I went to the boys line.

I agreed with Josie for the most part. I am currently on a low dose and so far it has ended the bulk of my body dysphoria and I feel happy for the first sustained period since I was 10 years old. When I can borderline pass then I would go full time, but I can appreciate that for some there may be other things that may stop that. Family, jobs, anxiety... but I don't want to live as a mismatch to where I am aiming long term.

[Jessica]

If I had to.  I started out thinking I could do just that but after starting hrt I'm thinking maybe I need to go the entire route.  I'm at an age (61) that it has no effect on my income, I have a great loving relationship with my wife.  I think we raised our boys open minded and our friends are too.  So maybe I need to go the full route to surgery.

[Shellie Hart]

Closeted here and on hrt for 2.75 years.  It's totally doable. I reckon I can keep this up for maybe another year before boymode is no longer sustainable.

I am also closeted and always will be. Have no choice. Just too many barriers to "going all the way." But I have been on HRT for 15 months now and have had changes that are much more than I imagined when I started. So I don't know now if I should quit for a while and see if these breasts slow their growth a little. If I grow another half-cup size I can't hide anything. I really can't hide now, and I am so restricted in what I can wear. I am so slim (well, skinny) these boobies are always "out there." Another year and we'll see where I am...

[Nora Kayte]

For those who ask who would do that. Come live my life in my body. For some it's not a choice. Everybody is different. No way in hell could I put off the hormones any longer. But I am in a situation where I can not just start living as a woman. Let me tell you it is hard. I see the oh woe is me post that everybody is prejudice. Or my family disowned me. And I don't get treated how I think I should because I am trans. Oh waaa. How would you like to be treated that way from the so called regular society and also get treated like that from the so called accepting LGBT society as well. To many hypocrites!!! Way to many. If you don't transition 100% into the so called correct gender there is something wrong??? Everybody is out for themselves. And if your not. Prove it. Words mean nothing. It's just like any other group. If your not like the majority you get kicked to the side.


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[Bari Jo]

I can tell you that my GD is lessons to a great extent on HRT.  For that reason alone, I think maybe is the answer.  I think after I've been on a year or more I could give a better answer.  The mental changes are profound and needed.  The physical changes aren't unwelcome though.  I think this journey even thou you can be social is so personal, it can be a lonely one.

[Deborah]

I simply do not define myself by my clothing choices.


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[stephaniec]

I'm recently going through a faze of wearing just jeans and a t shirt with my boobs. sticking out