Life has many twists and turns, ups and down.
Things got worse but now are getting better!
My son: the last time I wrote here he was in the hospital after having a manic episode. Well he is finally about to be released. He ended up getting arrested after he broke a faucet off in the ER. He was kind of out of it and didn't have his glasses on. It was one of those tall goose neck faucet spouts. Anyway an officer tasted him and he spent a week and a half in the county jail. We contacted the state's attorney who got him involuntary commitment to the state run hospital system. This way there would be no charges to face when he was better and the state would keep him until he was actually stable unlike the regular hospital system. He is doing good and looking forward to being home. It is unfortunate that he lost his income and almost lost his car. He may loose it yet. He is going to stay at our house for as long as he needs. He has come to a new understanding about life and what is important during his time stuck in the coo-coo nest. He got better quickly with proper care.
We got an apartment close to my wife's college. The kids are in the local public school there this year. So far they like it. My wife and I have been doing much better with only a few fights. Nothing earth shattering though so that has been good. We are together, mostly anyway. Maybe finding a new equilibrium between personal needs and partner needs. Much less codependency from both of us.
My mother in law however, that crazy narcissist won't let our belongings go. Then she took some of my sons stuff to her house while he was in the hospital. Her goal seemed to be to have him move in with her since we moved out. We are having to file lawsuits in multiple counties against her and still she won't let our property go.
My transition in life has been really moving forward. Staying in this town, no one in the neighborhood thinks anything but that we are a lesbian couple. I have been doing physical therapy again for my back injury. It is supposed to be "work hardening" therapy. The therapist started me doing some work like activities. Putting weight in a basket and doing lift and carry exercises. Problem started quickly. My lower back did not take that kind of activity. I had nerve pain shooting down my leg again at near max levels. After those first few days he switched me up to doing specific stretches and exercises on the gym machines. The idea to strengthen my muscles but not cause me to rotate my lower back or bend too much. This I have been able to do. I leave every day with pain in my leg and foot at about a level 5 but I manage to get through the exercise list. Then I go home to the apartment and lay down for a while. That helps relieve the pressure in my back and reduces the pain radiating down my leg and foot.
In the gym the physical therapists all know I'm trans but none of the patients or regular gym goers see me as anything but the woman I am. That is a great feeling.
I went to my second name change hearing at the county courthouse. This time the judge said all my forms were in order and he signed the order for name change.
At first I was starting to wonder. I swear he just tried me for my reaction. Maybe not. Last time I was there he didn't like the news paper my legal ad was published in. He was really dismissive, like negative towards me. As he explained that my ad wasn't right, his behavior toward me softened. I think he saw I was close to tears. His view of who and what I am shifted that day. This time after checking it all over and signing it, he told the bailiff to walk "HER" over to the circuit clerks office with the signed order.
I have my temporary drivers license in my purse with both my name and gender corrected. Waiting on the hard copy laminate to come from the state. I have updated most of my medical records at this point. With this last year I have plenty of doctors offices to update.
I have updated my home and auto insurance which also resulted in a slight rate drop for my auto policy. I faxed the info to my health insurance. I still need the permanent drivers license to update my bank accounts, auto loan, and social security. I will be mailing in for my corrected birth certificate next.
I have been researching GCS. I am on a waiting list. I should have a work injury settlement before I can get a surgery date scheduled. So that is in the works at least. I am still considering what aspects of FFS I want to have done and what doctor to go to.
