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Terrified w/prospect of going to therapist as Sarah

Started by Sarah.VanDistel, July 07, 2017, 01:23:46 PM

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Laurie

Hi Sarah,

  I cringe when I see all the bruising and swelling in these kind of pictures and yours are no different. It make me want to hug each of you that have FFS because it looks like it really hurts as if you've had the bejesus beaten out of you. But yes the nose and forehead and brow are very prominent changes. They obviously look good I can't wait to see how you look after the bruises and swelling are gone.

  Hugs,
   Laurie
April 13, 2019 switched to estradiol valerate
December 20, 2018    Referral sent to OHSU Dr Dugi  for vaginoplasty consult
December 10, 2018    Second Letter VA Psychiatric Practical nurse
November 15, 2018    First letter from VA therapist
May 11, 2018 I am Laurie Jeanette Wickwire
May   3, 2018 Submitted name change forms
Aug 26, 2017 another increase in estradiol
Jun  26, 2017 Last day in male attire That's full time I guess
May 20, 2017 doubled estradiol
May 18, 2017 started electrolysis
Dec   4, 2016 Started estradiol and spironolactone



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Sarah.VanDistel

Thanks Girls for your sweet feedback!

This was something that I craved so badly, for so long... It's funny... The other day, I was looking at a picture of me as kid with maybe 11 or 12 years-old and when I now look in the mirror, I feel that I can see that kid again.

Before undergoing my FFS, I also anticipated that I would somehow abruptly "mourn" my old image, but no... That didn't happen at all. I am unable to feel anything but happiness... I think that I had already mourned my old self along the last months, so despite the unchanged facial structure, "he" was already long gone...

You're right, Laurie... In the beginning, it looks like I've been hit by a train... [emoji856] It's just a little painful (really)... But very uncomfortable... However, I am able to witness the healing on an almost daily basis. For example, at the moment, my "racoon eyes" are about 20% of what you saw on the postop picture above and the swelling has also diminished considerably. I can now easily breathe through my nose, which allows me to sleep comfortably because I don't have to wake up every 30' to moisture my dry mouth. The gum bleeding has definitely stopped. I am now beginning exercising my mouth (I still can't open it fully because my masseter muscles are still irritated), my lips, my voice. My throath is still a bit irritated because of two long periods of orotracheal intubation (6h for the FFS + 5h for the tummy tuck and liposculpture), but nothing that low-dose ibuprofen can't alleviate. So I do believe that when I go back to work (I'm scheduled for a 12h night-shift on the 14th March) I'll be at least "presentable"... [emoji68]

I'll keep you girls posted about my evolution... Wow, Laurie... What a wild ride since that very first post. Never been so happy and thank you all for having encouraged me in doing all this!

I'll post about my tummy tuck and liposculture in about a week, after my follow-up consultation with my plastic surgeon, Dr. Doornaert.

Big warm hug!

Sarah

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Sarah.VanDistel

Hi Girls!

I hope everything is going well with all of you!

Just a quick update... As planned, this Easter I went with my family on vacation to Hong Kong and Macao. It was my first intercontinental trip post-FFS and the least that I could say is that I am super happy with the experience. I wasn't misgendered a single time! There was even a gentleman who thought that I was the older sister of these two boys who actually are my two sons (12 and 15)! 🤣 I feel that there is still some remodelling going on on my face and a little swelling, but I think that so far the recovery has been pretty decent.

My hair is still growing and although it's not as long as I want it to be, I no longer feel embarassed to go out without a head cover and at work I never used a surgical cap again... Talking about work, I did a huge impression when I got back! In fact, some people from management that hadn't seen me since over a year didn't even recognize me and thought that I was a new physician! [emoji3] I'm actually a renewed one... [emoji57]

A couple of weeks ago I had my first appointment with a plastic surgeon, Prof. Monstrey, at the Universiy Hospital of Ghent, to discuss my SRS and in a couple of days I'll be visiting Dr. Houtmeyers, also in Belgium, for a second opinion... I think that this, together with BA, will be the final step in my physical transition. [emoji66] And for now, still busy with electrolysis... Grrrr...

I'll leave with a pic of me in the streets of Hong Kong...

Warm hugs, Sarah



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KathyLauren

Sarah!  I am glad you had a good vacation and are recovering well.  I love the photo: you are beautiful!
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Roll

Sarah, I remember happening into your thread shortly after first arriving on these forums, when you were about 6 months into HRT. I remember the pictures vividly. I can definitely see how people didn't recognize you! You are such a wonderful inspiration! :)
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davina61

Well I didn't recognise you , looking very well.
a long time coming (out) HRT 12 2017
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Megan.

Hey hun, you're looking amazing! Glad things are going so well for you. X

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Sarah_P

Hi Sarah!! I'm so happy things are going so well. You look amazing!
--Sarah P

There's a world out there, just waiting
If you only let go what's inside
Live every moment, give it your all, enjoy the ride
- Stan Bush, The Journey



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sarah1972

Hey Sarah! You do look amazing! 30 Years younger and so happy!

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Sarah.VanDistel

Quote from: Roll on April 14, 2018, 12:06:40 PM
Sarah, I remember happening into your thread shortly after first arriving on these forums, when you were about 6 months into HRT. I remember the pictures vividly. I can definitely see how people didn't recognize you! You are such a wonderful inspiration! :)
Roll, you made me go back to the beginning of the thread and I couldn't believe how much I changed, not only physically, but also in my confidence. This has been the most marvelous journey one can dream of, despite the occasional suffering. I don't regret it a bit! Very happy to be an inspiration! [emoji4]Many of the girls here and elsewhere were also my inspiration!

Warm hug, Sarah

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Sarah.VanDistel

Hi Girls!

It's been quite a while, but as goes the saying, "no news is good news"! [emoji6]

So I've been quietly meandering my brand new life as Sarah. No big physical breakthroughs since my last post... My SRS and BA are still planned for March 2019. Still busy with electrolysis, now not only facial but also "down there". My hair keeps growing and it's now not noticeable anymore that I had once a quite severe balding... After 19 months HRT, fat redistribution is now evident, especially at the hips and thighs, notwithstanding a slightly lower body weight. Breasts are also objectively larger (3 cm increase in my chest circumference at the nipple level, along the last 6 months) and have a definitely feminine contour - they are certainly not "moobs" anymore...

My level of confidence has been improving even more. So much that last July, for the first time in my life, I gained the courage to wear a swimsuit and go to the beach, here close to home, in Netherlands. It was... liberating! It felt so right, so good. I never dreamed that I'd reach this milestone so early in my transition. Nobody paid attention to me... I felt perfectly stealth. It was wonderful! [emoji2956] Of course, this was in open-minded Netherlands... How well would it go in a more conservative place? [emoji848]

Well, I decided to find out and planned the first part of my summer vacations in a much more conservative region of Europe: very Catholic southern Italy, Puglia to be more precise! And not even the more touristy part of it, at that! We went every single day at the beach and guess what... nothing happened. Nope. I was not insulted. I was not stoned to death. I was looked at insistently only once by a man, but I have reasons to suspect that it was because I was in company of another woman (my wife) and we wear identical wedding rings... I had arrived to the beach alone a little earlier and that guy didn't pay attention to me, but as soon as my wife and kids joined me, he began staring... So I think that he had a problem with us as a lesbian couple with kids, not specifically with me. Which also sucks, albeit in a different kind of way... [emoji2955]

So it was, all in all, a very positive experience. So positive that we decided to spend the last week of Augustus in Malta, which, in sharp contrast with Italy, has the reputation of being the most LGBT-friendly country in Europe. Again, no problems there, even at the beach...

These positive beach experiences were very reassuring and boosted my confidence more than all the therapy sessions that I've gone through!

When we came back from Malta, I had a big surprise awaiting for me in the mailbox... My first name and gender had been officially corrected and the Civil Registry sent me a certified copy of my new birth certificate... "Sarah"... "Female"... I even started crying in the alley as I read the letter while walking from the mailbox to inside home. There was I, officially reborn, as the woman I always felt I was. [emoji175] A couple of days afterwards, I went to my country's consulate to have a new ID card and passport done. I should receive them in 1 or 2 weeks... So happy!

That's all for now... I'll leave with a couple of recent pics.

Love you all! [emoji173]

Sarah


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steph2.0

Sarah! It's so good to hear from you. Congratulations on all the awesome progress. Your pictures are so lovely!

Don't stay away so long next time. We miss you!

Stephanie


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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Sarah.VanDistel

Quote from: Steph2.0 on September 08, 2018, 09:13:38 AM
Sarah! It's so good to hear from you. Congratulations on all the awesome progress. Your pictures are so lovely!

Don't stay away so long next time. We miss you!

Stephanie
Thank you Stephanie! You are absolutely right! I'll try to keep you girls more up to date... Today, I suddenly missed this group so much! [emoji173]
Sarah

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Karen

Congratulations.  Your trips and experiences sound amazing.  And it is so nice that you are experiencing your new life, with the love and support of your wife and kids.

And you look amazing. 

Karen
Karen

* felt different like I did not fit, with strong feminine feelings and gender questions my entire life
* Sept 2016 - January 2017 real began to seriously question and research gender
* August 2017 friend explains transgender and gender vs sexual orientation, and immediately felt shock and begin to believe I maybe transgender
* March 2018 after 3 therapists, accepts I am transgender and am transitioning
* July 18, 2018 began HRT
* Feb 4, 2019 began Estrogen
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jesse135

Go for it. You look very good and don't you forget it
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KathyLauren

Sarah, it is so good to hear from you and see your pictures after such a long time away.  Seeing your photos, I can see why you have not had any problems: you are not even close to passing as male any more.  You look adorable!

Congratulations on getting your documents updated, and good luck with your upcoming surgeries!
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Megan.

Sarah's back! [emoji4]. Hi hun <waves>. It looks and sounds like both life and HRT are  treating you well, and I'm very happy to hear it. X

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Laurie

 Hi Sarah,

  Welcome home. It's good to hear from you again. What a positive and glowing report! And those pictures! All I can say is Daaaaaaamn!  You are looking good girl.

Hugs.
  Laurie
April 13, 2019 switched to estradiol valerate
December 20, 2018    Referral sent to OHSU Dr Dugi  for vaginoplasty consult
December 10, 2018    Second Letter VA Psychiatric Practical nurse
November 15, 2018    First letter from VA therapist
May 11, 2018 I am Laurie Jeanette Wickwire
May   3, 2018 Submitted name change forms
Aug 26, 2017 another increase in estradiol
Jun  26, 2017 Last day in male attire That's full time I guess
May 20, 2017 doubled estradiol
May 18, 2017 started electrolysis
Dec   4, 2016 Started estradiol and spironolactone



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SadieBlake

Sarah! So glad to hear from you and all your positive steps.

Also your photos this lesbian is thinking decidedly naughty thoughts, omg you're so pretty.

Bestest,

Sadie
🌈👭 lesbian, troublemaker ;-) 🌈🏳️‍🌈
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Sarah.VanDistel

Quote from: Karen on September 08, 2018, 11:40:20 AM
Congratulations.  Your trips and experiences sound amazing.  And it is so nice that you are experiencing your new life, with the love and support of your wife and kids.

And you look amazing. 

Karen
Hi Karen!

I have to say that the feeling that I have while transitioning is that of a rebirth, a second chance as the true and happy version of myself. I have to make up for the 44 years I lost living as someone else. I've been so thirsty of life! I try not to lose a single opportunity to enjoy all of "this"... I only mentioned the "big trips", but actually, as a family, we spend most of our free time doing stuff locally - mostly trekking, exploring little towns and cities around us, going to concerts...

I realize how lucky I was with my family... It's been one year and half since my decision and until this very day I ask myself "why"? Why did they accept me? It's unconditional love. It can only be. [emoji173]

Warm hugs, Sarah

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