STEALTH or Loud and Proud???

[eyesk8rboi]

So this is question that just runs through my mind.

I'm personally not stealth at all....But I know a lot of people are.

I am just curious to see the amount of people who are stealthy with being trans VS the amount of us who are really open about being trans. This counts for Pre and Post OP!

[Devlyn]

You didn't vote in your own poll?   

I'm out, because what about the children? Seriously, if my being out makes it easier for anyone then I consider it good work well done. 

Hugs, Devlyn

[stephaniec]

I'm into the position of not caring if someone knows.

[Brooke]

I'm going to give stealth a shot with new relationships and interactions whenever possible. Just starting a new job as Brooke and looking forward to the new interpersonal relationships beginning as only female.

I was talking about this with my counselor last week. I do wonder how another person's knowledge of you being trans, even if your 100% passable all the time, actually affects how they see you. I think it depends on the person, but do feel it's one of those things that can't be unsaid.  Once the genie is out of the bottle, you can't really put it back in.

That said my main social group all know so it'll be interesting to see if I perceive any difference and if it takes more or less mental effort to keep the topic off the table.


~Brooke~

[Elis]

I'm stealth at work and probably will be stealth at my next job. I just don't want to be seen differently because I'm trans; I want to finally be treated normally. Although I plan to get involved in trans charities in future. I want to help people have better experiences than I did and educate cis people.

[DawnOday]

I'm stealth as I like my cranium. But I do look forward to joining more activities as my authentic self. Also I do love my wife of 35 years, so I tread lightly. But I'm happy the E is doing what it is supposed to. And I have no heavy loads to carry. It's great.

[Lady Sarah]

When "stealth" means "going around presenting as the gender assigned at birth; and "loud and proud" might mean "telling everybody I used to be a dude", I'd vote " neither". I present as female, live as female and don't give a damn if nobody knows I was not born this way.

[eyesk8rboi]

Haha! Had to leave as soon as I posted it and just now got the chance to get back in the forums.

I'm non-stealth....Meaning I don't care if people know and I'm completely open about the fact that I'm trans.

[BLEMISH]

I'm stealth, or at least try my best to be! Not very many people know I am trans, and I like to keep it that way.


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[Ryuichi13]

The friends and family I have back home that know, I don't mind knowing.  If thyy've known me for a long time, I'll be sure to tell them. 😉

But, I recently joined an anime club, and I'm simply one of the guys in it.  I thought about saying something, but since I have no plans of having sex with any of them, the members knowing is irrelivant.

So I suppose I'm stealth, simply because my being trans is mostly irrelivant for new people to know.

Ryuichi

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[Kelly1ca]

I'm stealth at work but out and proud otherwise. When I retire in August going to be out and proud all the time.

[Barb99]

I transitioned openly so everyone at work and in my social circle know. However, I have been expanding my social life and as I make new friends I don't tell. If someone figures it out I won't deny it, but I never bring it up either.

I am retiring next year and will be moving to a new state. At that time I intend to be as stealth as possible.

[Kylo]

There are some people it can't be kept from.

However far as I'm concerned for the rest of the world, it's private information I'm not going to volunteer.

[Daisy Jane]

On the 4th I participated in an event called Freedom From Pants Bike Ride in Minneapolis. Hundreds of people bike around to different parks and get drunk along the way. I did not tuck. In fact I chose underwear that emphasized my package and made it as moose-knuckled as possible. Nothing to hide!

[Jenna Marie]

Neither; I'm not ashamed of being trans and I make no effort to hide it, but I've lived as a woman long enough that it just rarely comes up. So I'm "semi-stealth" in some contexts (in the sense that no one knows, but I don't care if they did) and fully out in others (especially in trans spaces).

I was amused to be on a panel at a local journalists' group recently and have someone chatting with me mention that there's a trans author with the same name as mine. It blew their mind to find out that I could be both a (freelance) journalist and a fiction author!

[warlockmaker]

Third gender out and proud. My documentary is going global, no stealth for me.

[Cailan Jerika]

A very different kind of total stealth. I'm totally guy inside, totally AFAB girl outside, and even after SRS I plan to present female while I'm fully transitioned (in my vision of my transition). It just feels right to me. Being bi-gender is a bit bizarre sometimes. No one except for a few will ever know I'm anything but cishet, unless I tell them.

[eyesk8rboi]

Third gender out and proud. My documentary is going global, no stealth for me.

Documentary you say???

[Ryuichi13]

Third gender out and proud. My documentary is going global, no stealth for me.

Really?  What's it called, I'd love to watch it!

Ryuichi

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[warlockmaker]

Its filmed by Vice Media. We won awards in Shanghai and Beijing LGBT film festival. HK next then Rio and Sao Paulo. The international edition on Vice Media Utube will be out in a couple of weeks. Its taken a long time for Vice USA cos everyone had to sign releases. Will post when out.