Personally I don't endorse dismantling stereotypes by force - i.e. trying to get the law to force people to accept gender non conformity, by way of using neutral pronouns etc. I do not think that will help us in the long run - the left side of the political spectrum has been trying very hard of late to do this - increasingly by force - and it isn't having the desired effect upon society at large... and I do not think this is because there's a ton of bigots out there. I think it's because when you force your ideas upon others, or when you use force in general, you get the opposite of what you intended. People hate you for it, and they will reject your ideas. Force just begets more force. Trying to shame people for not accepting is also going to produce similar results. Educating people in a respectful way (allowing for their opinions), and living your life as a good example is the best way to show that we are also human beings.
I also think that it's important not to get carried away with going after people who make jokes or generally dislike us. I would be satisfied at the law being changed to make it illegal to kick trans people out of jobs simply for being trans, etc. or to attack them for being trans, but I would not pursue people making comments or jokes in their own lives. A world in which nobody can make a joke would not be one I want to live in, even if the joke happens to be at the expense of a trans person. It's more important and beneficial to reach a state in which a joke means nothing to you, than to remain in a state in which a joke will ruin your day.
At this point in life I've realized that it's ok for other people to disapprove, provided I still have my basic rights. In fact it's a healthy society that does not become an echo chamber and suppress different view points and voices just because a minority like mine happens not to like them very much. I oppose excessive political correctness because in the end what it seems wont to create is a world without discourse. As an academic I'm bound by my principles to oppose censorship of ideas and the stifling of speech, no matter how much I'm told it is to "protect me". Not least because censorship is most often the beginning of a dark road our history knows all about. If I have to choose between having my feelings hurt and the risks posed by censorship at present - hurt my feelings. They are infinitely less important than pushing society further and further toward a polarized and violent confrontation by suppression.
As a former biologist, I do have beef with the idea chromosomes have little to say about biological sex, and I don't believe it is the place of trans people to try and rewrite science until we know a great deal more than we do. I would also say trans people are rarer than cis people, and it doesn't sit well with me to see a minority of people in the world attempting to tell the rest of it what is and is not normal, or exactly what gender is, myself included. Just because we are trans does not mean we know more about what gender is than someone who isn't. I would be very careful of trying to do this as it may well have the opposite effect you intend, especially if you automatically assume your view is always right and that they owe you something. All they really owe you is basic human decency and tolerance. They don't owe us automatic acceptance or automatic love or automatic adoption of all of our ideas. And we don't exactly have a right to dismantle all of what is theirs just because we don't exactly fit right into it. Postmodern views in general seem to be causing issues these days, and I feel it is never wise to cast away your anchor completely.
If allowed the right amount of time, a generation or so I would say, people will eventually come around to the idea - as they have with homosexuality in many places - that trans is a naturally-occurring phenomenon and not the work of the devil or of a degenerate society. They are still reeling from the mass "discovery" of trans issues in the media and our community is at this point pressing and pressing for this right or that law, and it's all very sudden for them. They will need time to digest, and for fresher minds to be raised in an environment where they can see with their own eyes that trans people aren't two-headed monsters but just people. Sometimes, unfortunately, you just have to wait for the intolerance to literally die off in older generations.
In my view our path to being more accepted doesn't lie in trying to utterly "normalize" us and dismantle everything cis - it lies in more research into the condition of trans, and understanding and explaining it through a medical lens. I've spoken now with dozens of people who were initially skeptical that trans was anything but a fashion statement, or some exotic form of schizophrenia, and by explaining in biological and medical terms my experiences, I find plenty of acceptance and acknowledgement that yes, I am not quite like them, and never quite will be... but that's okay - and I'm also no threat. I'm just trying to fit in and live my life like they are, and desire minimal disruption to their lives or to the logical machinery of the world. Those trans individuals I see who go in lecturing and demanding the everyday world change to suit them (or else!) seem to receive the most resistance, the most fear and the most dislike. And small wonder - they are presenting a credible threat to the "normal world" of these people when they say they want them to call them by strange new words, or to have schools teach (their) young children about ->-bleeped-<-, or else bring the weight of the law courts crashing down on them.
Some time in the future, provided we do not war or starve ourselves into extinction, being trans will probably be a non-issue. When the time is right for that, nothing will prevent it. But if the time and conditions are not yet right, trying to get what we want by threatening or forcing others might well set us back a very long time.
