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Transitioning Is Making People Be Nicer To Me!!??

Started by MaiaOZ, August 04, 2017, 07:15:55 AM

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MaiaOZ

Has anyone experienced this? I'm currently taking baby steps into my transition as I don't go "all out woman" in regards to how I present myself. I would never pass regardless of how much effort I go to, largely because I am 6'1" with broad shoulders and at the age of 46, my facial features are just a bit too masculine. For that reason I don't even bother with makeup. Due to these factors, I present myself as androgynous but perhaps leaning slightly more towards feminine. My presentation, I believe, is why people hardly seem to notice me as being different when in a crowd. Sometimes I may catch someone staring but they always seem to have a "puzzled" look on their face.

As I add more and more feminine elements to my appearance, I've noticed that for the most part, people seem to be nicer and friendlier towards me. It's quite a surprise to me as I've always expected nothing but ignorance and hate. Could my location (Melbourne, Australia) be a better place than I had expected? Does society (or Melbourne) simply hate men so much that being anything else is better? I actually think this may be a big factor as women tend to be far more welcoming with me now than they were when I was a "man". As a man I felt like everyone saw me as a thug, or like someone who just wanted to "get into women's pants". I guess the latter was true, just not the way they thought. lol

Has anyone else had that kind of experience? As much as I am enjoying it, it's also weirding me out! Sometimes I feel like I'm in the twilight zone. I'm a very pessimistic person so I keep thinking I should brace myself for that inevitable day when someone eventually is nasty to me and sends me crashing back down into reality. What do you think?
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AnamethatstartswithE

It's hard to say without knowing more, but it may just be that you're more relaxed and happier, and that is being reflected back to you by other people.
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elkie-t

Now you became a minority and people feel less threatened by minorities :)


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MaiaOZ

Both are good points. Indeed I am happier now than compared to back when I was all male. My confidence has improved too but I think that's the result of being treated well. I guess these points may be all it comes down to. I wish I could read people's minds.
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