Ok, since I already did my introduction, I figured I'd share how I'm coming out, which I currently am right now. Growing up I had my best friend, and I told him while I was in High School, and he was accepting of it, and didn't judge, but recently after my divorce I got in a depressed state, and messed up alot of my relationships. So around March of this year I was talking with my middle sister. (I'm the oldest, and we have a younger sister as well) and I just randomly came out to her. I have no idea why, but the moment just seemed right. She was completely accepting, helps that she is bi herself, and her best friend's sister transitioned, so there was experience there, and she's helped me grow in confidence to even start thinking about transitioning. Next I told my little sister, and she as well was accepting of it.
Then came my parents, I kind of did a round trip with them after I set up an appointment to talk to a counselor. Figured that this was something i was going to do, so they should know about it, since they're separated, I decided to visit one right after the other. I started with my dad. At first he didn't know what being Transgender meant, but after explaining to him what I was, he asked if that meant I was going to be like "Bruce Jenner".
Told him that I definitely do plan on transitioning, and he told me that no matter what he's my father and will love me regardless. So that went well. My next stop was my mom's. This one was iffy. I told her, and she flat out told me that I'm not, and she doesn't think I am, and she wished that i had talked to a counselor before I told her, because the counselor "Would have told me that I only think this way because my dad 'abused' me as a kid, and if I acted a certain way I was acting like a female, and that's why I think I should be." Then said like my dad that she's my parent, and would love me regardless. On June 20th, 2018 I had my first appointment with my counselor, and it felt....freeing. Like a huge weight had been lifted off my chest, and that I was ready to just take this head on. A week or so after I asked my ex-wife to come over and I told her as well. She told me that she backed it 110%, but needed some time to process it all.
So going back to my parents. I recently called July 9th, 2018 to schedule my first HRT visit, and I went over to my mom's after to visit so my kids can play in the pool since it was 90 degrees, and I told her that I was going to be starting my HRT in August. That's when she lost it. She was really hoping that my counselor would have told me I wasn't trans, but she told me that I need to go and talk to another counselor "If you had cancer you'd want to go and see another doctor, and get a second opinion, and you're not trans because that's just people who want to be female to sleep with a man." Well needless to say that made me angry, how could someone not understand and put down a group of people, one that I'm a part of and not even know the real truth. So my dad texted me and was complaining the the Yankees were losing, which being a Yankees fan I would have complained about it too but I was dealing with my mom, so I wasn't in the best of moods as it is. and told him why I was upset, and then he went on about how he doesn't think I should transition, and he's worried about what people will say and think about me, and that's where I stand right now. I haven't really talked to them the last couple days, I want to let things blow over, and I'm debating if I even should or just let them be and just be around my sisters who are accepting.
