An unexpected side effect of transitioning

[Denise]

I work in Chicago and about once every other week we go to a pizza place where you order like an assembly line. At the start you're asked your name for the order.  We go as a group of three every time.  I'm the only one they don't ask for a name.  They know it.

Yesterday I was wine tasting at a place I go about 8 times per year.  Yesterday one of the servers who has never serves my, I don't even remember seeing in the past (I would have remembered her!) Went out of her way to stop over to the other bar area and say hi "Denise".

Anyone else find that you are recognized more than you were pre transition?  I don't know if I find it complementary or creepy.

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[Dee Marshall]

It's kinda hard to say. It may be that or it could just be that I'm much more outgoing.

For example, post transition my Facebook friends list has doubled. Before they were mostly family.

I've noticed that most of the trans people I know are very flashy, in a good way. We make an impression. We get noticed. And we get pointed out, and not just by people who recognize us as trans.

Without knowing why we are this way, people want to be us! I'm not so sure they would still want to if they knew what we go through.

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April 22, 2015, the day of my first face to face pass in gender neutral clothes and no makeup. It may be months to the next one, but I'm good with that!

Being transgender is just a phase. It hardly ever starts before conception and always ends promptly at death.

They say the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I say, climb aboard!

Think outside the voice box!

[Cindy]

I work in Chicago and about once every other week we go to a pizza place where you order like an assembly line. At the start you're asked your name for the order.  We go as a group of three every time.  I'm the only one they don't ask for a name.  They know it.

Yesterday I was wine tasting at a place I go about 8 times per year.  Yesterday one of the servers who has never serves my, I don't even remember seeing in the past (I would have remembered her!) Went out of her way to stop over to the other bar area and say hi "Denise".

Anyone else find that you are recognized more than you were pre transition?  I don't know if I find it complementary or creepy.

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It's the sunglasses Hon. People recognise sunglasses.

[Deborah]

That's been happening to me my whole life.  At my gym I have only been going to since May we have to scan our gym ID at the front desk when we go in.  Last week when I walked up to the desk to scan in the guy just waved me through and said he had already checked me in.  This kind of thing has always made me feel like I look weird in some way.


Conform and be dull. —James Frank Dobie, The Voice of the Coyote

[Denise]

That's been happening to me my whole life.  At my gym I have only been going to since May we have to scan our gym ID at the front desk when we go in.  Last week when I walked up to the desk to scan in the guy just waved me through and said he had already checked me in.  This kind of thing has always made me feel like I look weird in some way.


Conform and be dull. —James Frank Dobie, The Voice of the Coyote

I wonder how many others he does that to? 

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[Dena]

Anyone else find that you are recognized more than you were pre transition?  I don't know if I find it complementary or creepy.

Anything that makes you stand out will get that type of attention. Some places where we were regulars and talked to the staff treating them as equals brought that type of attention. You can also do it by tipping heavy. Far to many people live in an emotional bubble where they have lost that small town attitude where everybody knows everybody so we are no longer used to what was once common place.

[ainsley]

Anyone else find that you are recognized more than you were pre transition?  I don't know if I find it complementary or creepy.

Yes!  I have noticed this, too.  I think most of the time it is complementary. 

[Deborah]

I'm not sure if this was a side effect or if some people around here are just nice, but: I was just out running and it was raining kind of hard with lightening about 5 miles away.  (Rain runs are my favorite and I checked lightening proximity before I started).  Twice cars pulled up next to me with the guy inside asking if I needed a ride. :-). That's never happened before.


Conform and be dull. —James Frank Dobie, The Voice of the Coyote

[Anne Blake]

I do find that I am recognized far more now than in my old life. One of the blessings of transitioning for me is that I have become way more relational, less introverted with a splash of effervescent whimsy. I take the added recognition as a positive affirmation of the new me. And for the most part I love it. It is either that or everybody loves an old grandma!

[Dani2118]

I'd never thought about this before. Now that I've stopped hiding who I really am, I've gotten a few dirty looks. But your right people do tend to remember me more often also. And some of them are nicer than before! I hope this keeps up the further I go!