Im going to be blunt, they are not your family. They were to some man who is long gone but not to Amore. Family isnt by blood or name, it is by who is around and cares. You husband is a good example of family. He is there and cares for Amore. This little stunt by this person you seem to refer to as ''brother''. is hurting your true family. If you attend it will put you in psycological harm and also do something similar to your man. Your man will have to see you pretend to be something you are not, you know dead name and wearing mens clothes when you look like the woman you are and aswell your man will basically have to pretend he is a gay man (which he is not) in order to aplease your ''family''. Two people being miserable for one selfish ''brother''. To be blunt again, your ''brother'' has shown he isnt willing to change. He wants things his way. He would rather you be a miserable ''male'' thingy, then the happy beautiful woman you are!!
Hate to be that person but at some point you gotta cut the ties. I lost family and freinds over my transition. In honesty i recall cutting people disrespectful towards my feelings and my idenity as early as 2012. One year before i took planning of transition seriously and a full 2 years before i began the transition. Why? becasue they already made it known they will never respect me or see me as me, and they will stick to their beleifs i am just some ''dude''. I could have kept them in my life, but why in the world would I ever do a silly thing like that? Even in recent times I had to cut family out of my life after they show their real colours. And in truth, I didnt shed a single tear of it then or now. I dont see any future relationship with those people and i dont plan on making one happen again.
What I am saying is, you got to take care of your true family. Your Husband, Daughter and clsoe friends who would bend over back, not cater to a bunch of ignorant arses hell bent on trying to tell you who you are.
Love ya-Ashley
